Mental Health Support

Maybe she is a little lost without you and is begging you to get better, maybe she is lording it over you.

Unable to tell from a spectator spot.

But I do know this. As a depressive, it is my job to take care of me, but sometimes I can't.

I have given people in my life permission to light a fire under my ass when that happens, but it was my choice.


Let's start here:

YOU MATTER.

YOU DESERVE a better life whether it makes them happy or not.

DON'T leave yourself in the pits to get back at them.


MAYBE if there is a better thing she could do to help you, you could ask specifically.

If she has money and can hire someone to help you get stuff organized, it might be a path back to living on your own terms. IDK, right now if someone would help me get my house organized so I could find things quickly IS my dream of helpful. May not be yours.

IF you just need space from her without being judged, that can be a request too.

IF you need to tell her that actually WORKING for her vs handing over your work would have given you a self esteem burst, that might help her understand what kind of help actually helps.

People can be emotionally clumsy, but if she is still reaching out it is because she values you.

Yeah, she doesn't know HOW to help and she's a bit of an emotional ditz, but she WANTS to see you better.

My sister and I were on the outs due to a fight we had when our Mom died. She took her space.

When we got back in touch, sometimes all I did was have my phone in my pocket with head phones so I could wash dishes and clean while she went on and on about her life.

She got someone to listen, I got someone to be there virtually with me while I cleaned. I HATE CLEANING ALONE.

At one point we did a family vacation together and had so much fun, eventually I asked if she ever thought of moving if she could move to my state. She did.

She still does a lot of things for me that I don't really need, but I accept the love implied. I tell people if I ever get rich, she will be my personal shopper. The clothes I love, she has picked out for me. I HATE SHOPPING.

But I have so many clothes now, I am drowning in them. LOL. Hard to let go of stuff because for me it is a symbol of her love after we almost lost each other.

I hope you and your sister/family can figure it out.

THE HARD PART.... you have to be your own hero as far as your own mental health goes.

No matter WHAT the others do, that place inside you that judges and feels judged is IN YOUR CONTROL and when you are depressed, it's the F*****G depression that is in control.

KICK DEPRESSION'S A**

Saying that to YOU because I need to hear it myself.


SO DO SOMETHING NICE FOR YOURSELF and tell Depression to go suck it.

FIND SOMETHING bright and beautiful and make it your screen saver or wallpaper so you see beauty.



OH and FIND your inner TIGRESS