Mental Health Support

kids have been saying fuck you and leaving home forever. that is why we have armies and navies.

the sad fact is that most parents do the best they can and for a lot of us, that is not much. we struggle with our own lives, in many cases our own illnesses. and we hope that our kids will do well and love us anyway.
i think a part of the breaking away process is to stop seeing our parents as the outsized beings they were when we were little, and start seeing them as the human beings that they are.
i had to get over a father that was an alcoholic. i always kind of pitied him, and saved my anger for my mother. the parent that didn't save me. i think i was in my 30's before i started thinking about what life was like for her.

i don't remember who said this first- i am all flaws, held together by good intentions. i think that is most parents. for the children of the true monsters out there, there is probably little escape. but for the children of the ordinary fucked up people, forgiveness for being a fucked up person can be a start.
do it for yourself.