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MichMary

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21. I'm actually really okay about the whole thing

Mon May 15, 2017, 12:35 PM

May 2017

First, I am under the observation and treatment of a cardiologist and surgeon at the Cleveland Clinic, and they are very good. They have had a lot of experience with this condition, which a lot of docs have never even heard of!

Second, I have kind of a fatalistic approach to the whole thing. I have had _31 years_ of life that I wasn't supposed to have!! I have been able to raise my two babies, see them graduate from high school and college, and start families of their own. How cool is that? If I had known that 31 years ago, when there were no guarantees that I would even live long enough for them to have memories of me, I would have figured it was more than I had a right to ask for.

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this is kind of a stupid question.. [View all] JHan May 2017 OP

Everyone is different but it took me a couple of years to feel somewhat normal again. Solly Mack May 2017 #1

Yep, JHan May 2017 #2

Cancer treatment became the sun my house revolved around. After treatment, we had to adapt again. Solly Mack May 2017 #5

" I had to learn how to relax again" JHan May 2017 #12

As solly said everyone and every type of cancer and every treatment is different. pangaia May 2017 #3

Yep, the support staff I have access to have been great. JHan May 2017 #13

Since I will be on chemo for life, it's a case of 'new normal' moonscape May 2017 #4

thanks for your wisdom moonscape. JHan May 2017 #14

Depression is absolutely normal after any serious health issue Warpy May 2017 #6

so true.. JHan May 2017 #15

I think you have to pretty much become your new self. JayhawkSD May 2017 #7

thank you for that perspective.. JHan May 2017 #16

When people think of traumatic events Phoenix61 May 2017 #8

yes! JHan May 2017 #17

Interesting approach regarding depression JayhawkSD May 2017 #22

There is a pretty strong gender slant Phoenix61 May 2017 #24

I don't think so. JayhawkSD May 2017 #29

Based on my experience as a therapist Phoenix61 May 2017 #30

Okay, you win JayhawkSD May 2017 #31

I don't have the right experience as the cancer was surgically removed. TexasProgresive May 2017 #9

I had surgery and chemo, no radiation. JHan May 2017 #18

It certainly is with chemo. JayhawkSD May 2017 #23

Mine was very clear. Exactly 13 months. I felt worse after the sinkingfeeling May 2017 #10

first, congrats on remaining cancer free... JHan May 2017 #19

My experience MichMary May 2017 #11

Yep, I'll be more proactive getting help... JHan May 2017 #20

I'm actually really okay about the whole thing MichMary May 2017 #21

:) JHan May 2017 #26

I don't think it ever goes back to the "before" PennyK May 2017 #25

I'm rooting for you, I hope it's the last complication for you as well. JHan May 2017 #27

It took me a year after the chemo usrbs May 2017 #28