Cancer Support

So, thank you for your post. I wish I could help, but I can definitely sympathize. My husband isn't angry--not yet anyway--but he is very depressed. Just everything that's going on prior to the actual treatments has made him miserable. First, they did surgery to remove both tonsils, which has been incredibly painful. Then, they pulled all his remaining teeth, so he has that pain on top of the pain from the tonsillectomy. All of this has happened within the past 2 weeks. He's lost 10 lbs just due to being unable to eat properly. Tomorrow, they are doing more surgery to implant a feeding tube in his stomach, and he won't be able to eat for 36 hours after that. They said today that they may keep him overnight at the hospital after this procedure, and I hope they do so they can get some nutrients in him intravenously. About all he can handle is liquids right now, mostly Ensure. So, right now, he is miserable and depressed, but I thank you for the head's up about anger. What they (and we, as spouses) are going through is similar to the seven stages of grief, I think, so it makes sense that anger would be a stage in the process of dealing with all of this. Maybe it would help some to look at it like that--as a stage that will pass. I know that is little comfort when you are being verbally assaulted on a daily basis, but maybe it's a thread to hang onto, if nothing else. I hope you are able to find a good support group or counselor. The emotional aspects of dealing with this are brutal.