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willamette

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4. perception

Mon Dec 25, 2023, 10:40 PM

Dec 2023

Mine thought that he had me completely cornered, and he was astonished when I left anyway, after 40 years. All it took in the end was realizing that he had truly come to despise me; that "I love you, but ..." was not the same as caring or nurturing. We were in a community property state, so I just needed to hang on until the divorce was final, after I moved out. I was able to take survival funds with me, which I lived on for the year that it took to finalize the distribution of property.
Good Luck to you, XanaDUer2, and enjoy the changing of the days this solstice season.

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This is a vent [View all] XanaDUer2 Dec 2023 OP

I see you. I hear you. willamette Dec 2023 #1

Thank you XanaDUer2 Dec 2023 #2

He has me now trained not to say anything XanaDUer2 Dec 2023 #3

perception willamette Dec 2023 #4

I rely on him to pay bills XanaDUer2 Dec 2023 #5

Sounds like a scary situation, I'm wondering if Alanon could help? Rhiannon12866 Dec 2023 #6

Thank you XanaDUer2 Dec 2023 #7

You're more than welcome, and don't forget to check in anytime. Rhiannon12866 Dec 2023 #9

X kozar Dec 2023 #8

.TOTAL TRUTH . READ..NUMBER 8.... "JUST BE OK" "IT WILL BE OK"...KOZAR ..#8....NUMBER 8... Stuart G Dec 2023 #10

When I first joined AA, I also attended OA meetings with my AA sponsor Rhiannon12866 Jan 2024 #11

Congrats! XanaDUer2 Jan 2024 #12

Thanks so much! Rhiannon12866 Jan 2024 #13

Thank You for posting some of your experience in AA. Sharing our lives is very important here. Stuart G Feb 2024 #14

Awww, you're more than welcome. Sharing helps me, too. Rhiannon12866 Feb 2024 #15