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112. The sooner you can find a sponsor at AA, the better

Mon Aug 21, 2023, 07:51 PM

Aug 2023

They can be key to staying sober for one more day, especially early in recovery, especially when that next ten minutes is the problem, not the rest of the day which seems beyond you.

AA is online, if your home group doesn't meet for a while. https://aaonline.org/ will get you there. You will need a home group with a sponsor in your area, online meetings are just what you do when it's either that or take that first drink and you don't have an off switch.

Suggest AlAnon for your wife, she needs help, too, and this is a group for friends and families of alcoholics and addicts.

Don't expect your family to keep you sober, they can't, they're just not qualified. You need expert help. They're at AA.

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