Addiction & Recovery

Wait Wut

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17. Warning: I may seem unsympathetic with my comment.

Thu Apr 11, 2013, 03:45 PM

Apr 2013

But, I'm not. It's just something I've dealt with in the past.

Be stronger than your addiction. Your wife isn't 'pissed', she's depressed and you're killing her. If you have children (any age) you're killing them, too. The stress of being in a relationship with an alcoholic is devastating.

Next time you go into a store to pick up a pint, change your mind and buy your wife some flowers instead. No flowers? Find some little goofy gift for her. If she asks why, tell her the truth. Tell her that you chose to spend that money on her instead of a pint. That she's more important than your addiction.

Tell yourself that you're more important. You're just now beginning to be honest with yourself. Keep it up. If you need help, get it. Don't wait. 'One more day' can last a lifetime.

My ex-bf died last year from an overdose topped off with a bottle of cheap whiskey. He was one of the brightest, most compassionate people I've ever known. Now...he's a fucking statistic along with a lot of other people in my life.

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I need to talk. [View all] clam happy Apr 2013 OP

Thank god I don't want to smoke. seabeyond Apr 2013 #1

I wish you success in quitting. My wife quit clam happy Apr 2013 #15

I am no expert on this matter Trajan Apr 2013 #2

With me, I had to get to that point where I was just sick and tired of being sick and tired of demosincebirth Apr 2013 #34

Interesting tavalon Jun 2013 #38

For whatever it's worth, I've been sober 25 years LiberalEsto Apr 2013 #3

I'm glad you're here. elleng Apr 2013 #4

excellent resource NMDemDist2 Apr 2013 #22

ABSOLUTELY NMDem. elleng Apr 2013 #23

i actually started a thread about this book not long ago.... NMDemDist2 Apr 2013 #25

GREAT! Sorry I missed it! elleng Apr 2013 #26

been there done that... oldhippydude Apr 2013 #5

Congratulations! You are moving out of the denial stage of alcoholism. dixiegrrrrl Apr 2013 #6

SO GLAD you're here for him, dixiegrrrrl! elleng Apr 2013 #7

I am strong supporter of Codependency treatment dixiegrrrrl Apr 2013 #9

Ditto, helped me too, elleng Apr 2013 #10

What would be hard? clam happy Apr 2013 #8

Look what you just said: dixiegrrrrl Apr 2013 #11

i have to agree with Dixie NMDemDist2 Apr 2013 #20

Hello. Ilsa Apr 2013 #12

Post removed Post removed Apr 2013 #13

I've lurked for a long time clam happy Apr 2013 #14

I was in a 12 step program. . In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #16

Warning: I may seem unsympathetic with my comment. Wait Wut Apr 2013 #17

I'm so sorry for your loss. In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #18

Thank you. Wait Wut Apr 2013 #19

... NMDemDist2 Apr 2013 #21

You don't seem unsympathetic clam happy Apr 2013 #27

I'm so glad to hear that! Wait Wut Apr 2013 #29

Well, we're not so far apart as you might imagine. clam happy Apr 2013 #30

Take the step Old Codger Apr 2013 #24

Thank you to everyone. I am sober tonight. clam happy Apr 2013 #28

One sober day at a time. In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #31

First you have to decide if you want to quit. JayhawkSD Apr 2013 #32

Yes, I do. clam happy Apr 2013 #33

Excellent! tavalon Jun 2013 #39

It ain't that hard. Don't worry about the program. Don't worry about the steps. Iggo Apr 2013 #35

What's your blood alcohol content (BAC) when driving after 3-4 mini bottles? progree Apr 2013 #36

We're on the same road... Taverner Jun 2013 #37

Yay, I am so glad to hear it tavalon Jun 2013 #40

Message auto-removed Name removed Jun 2013 #41

AA is for drinkers who at some point have lost the power of choice regarding how much they drink Fire Walk With Me Jul 2013 #42