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kdmorris

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7. I had 3 children with my abusive ex-husband

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Wed Jul 11, 2012, 08:55 AM

Jul 2012

And after I left, I was so determined that no one would have control over my body that I tried to get my tubes tied (I was 24). No doctor would do it without my ex-husband's permission until I was legally divorced or 25 years old. Pissed me off so much that it became my priority in life to get my tubes tied.

I got divorced, turned 25 and scheduled the surgery. I actually do regret it now, but that's only because I met and married an awesome man (tkmorris) who had no biological children of his own just 2 years later. He raised my daughters as his own children, but we have always wanted to have a child together and getting tubes untied is expensive.

But the attitude that I couldn't do something without my ex-husband's permission always angered me.

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Getting Your Tubes Tied Is a Giant Pain in the Ass [View all] REP Jul 2012 OP

Given the relatively low numbers for post op regret Warpy Jul 2012 #1

Are you me? :-) REP Jul 2012 #5

When I got mine at age 30 NV Whino Jul 2012 #2

That was an extraordinarily arrogant comment by the doc. Gormy Cuss Jul 2012 #3

had it done twice... handmade34 Jul 2012 #4

I've had a tubal ligation and a uterine ablation - but only once each REP Jul 2012 #6

I had 3 children with my abusive ex-husband kdmorris Jul 2012 #7

That seems to follow CREST findings: REP Jul 2012 #8

Except for "being of Hispanic origin" kdmorris Jul 2012 #9

Get your tubes tied and regret it, you have many options LadyHawkAZ Jul 2012 #10

I had a hard time getting my tubes tied and I already had two kids gollygee Jul 2012 #11

In most cases there's no reason not to try a LARC first, LeftyMom Jul 2012 #12

Except for wanting it over and done with REP Jul 2012 #13

Pretty much every other country in the world routinely puts IUDs in nulliparas. LeftyMom Jul 2012 #14

I'd say it's largely ass-covering. n/t gkhouston Jul 2012 #15

I think they just weren't making them for the US market REP Jul 2012 #17

Make the man get a V-sect! Taverner Jul 2012 #16

And recovery is much less for the male procedure! It's a much more minor procedure. yardwork Jul 2012 #18

Two anecdotes. REP Jul 2012 #22

I'd given birth that year and had spent my out-of-pocket annual maximum gollygee Jul 2012 #19

Not so great for those of us women LadyHawkAZ Jul 2012 #20

I've been with my partner 20 years. I still want to control MY body. REP Jul 2012 #21

I certainly won't disagree with that LadyHawkAZ Jul 2012 #23

Would you have needed a note from a man to remain pregnant? REP Jul 2012 #24

"Make" the man? 4th law of robotics Jul 2012 #25

if it's a pain in the ass, i'd say your surgeon missed the mark.... unblock Jul 2012 #26

I didn't write the headline... REP Jul 2012 #28

I have been taking hormonal birth control for 30 years prole_for_peace Jul 2012 #27

I had a great doctor LaurenG Jul 2012 #29