Feminists

I'm a bit withdrawn and often can't or won't speak out. I gravitate towards strong roll models who do say what they feel and think. They lead by example. I took assertiveness training way back in the 80's. I had to unlearn reacting and falling into dispare over shity things my exhusband would say to me. I learned to say you could be right, made his insults meaningless. Drove him crazy that I could avert arguing by partially agreeing.
I like the article for validating that calling us over sensitive if we complain about unkind treatment, is, meant to discredit our perception. We need validation from each other that how we feel and think is real and alright.
I'm still trying to toughen up. Knowing that sometimes having someone remain calm, unpreturbed,and in control, while you scream and cry, is manipulative and mean, especially after they bait you into a melt down.
It happens. Not all quarrels are equally fought. We are not crazy.