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BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
13. this snip says it very well
Fri Feb 3, 2012, 09:40 AM
Feb 2012

It reminds me of that feeling, of being under observation--am I sexy enough?

It was a critical question for me for many many many years. I know that feeling, that need to pass muster.

It's odd now, to have passed into invisibility. Men have no parallel for this experience, what it feels like. I imagine they face it later, perhaps to a lesser degree, much later. I don't know what it's like for them.


I think the silver accentuates the age---the age that signifies you have passed the "shelf date" and are no longer of interest.

That's the tyranny of, and the freeing from being ruled by biology.

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bravo knowbody0 Jan 2012 #1
This gave me a renewed appreciation for being shy around strangers arcane1 Jan 2012 #2
Beautifully written. PassingFair Jan 2012 #3
Geez, Patrick_Bateman Jan 2012 #4
Turning 50 was huge for me in a very good way. MuseRider Jan 2012 #5
I really enjoyed this. CrispyQ Jan 2012 #6
this snip says it very well BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2012 #13
i have not been able ot express how i feel about the gaze, but yes, this says it. seabeyond Feb 2012 #14
lol! Looking them in the eye.... BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2012 #15
forcibly returning the gaze, making forceful eye contact, is key. seabeyond Feb 2012 #16
Last week, Patrick_Bateman Jan 2012 #7
welcome to du. nt seabeyond Jan 2012 #8
Grazie Grazie! Patrick_Bateman Jan 2012 #9
Hair is not intimidating, attitude is. One_Life_To_Give Feb 2012 #10
haha Happy2323 Feb 2012 #11
Welcome to du, to you too. Lol seabeyond Feb 2012 #12
This Ii totally agree with: raccoon Feb 2012 #17
what a fantastic read Whisp Feb 2012 #18
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