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buzzycrumbhunger

(2,514 posts)
31. It's not fair
Sun Jul 5, 2026, 05:49 PM
Sunday

… that our furbabies live such short lives compared to ours to begin with, but even knowing that, it’s ALWAYS a big blow.

That initial hole in your life does scab over, though, and invariably another one will come to fill the gap. Every dog and cat I’ve had has succeeded in easing the pain of that hole and filling in another I didn’t know I had. Every new one immediately has me wondering why I waited so long to welcome a new one.

I think it’s almost worse having pets who will outlive you… I have four parrots (two orange wing Amazons and two African greys) who can live 80-100 years and I’m more concerned about how my kids will have to take up that mantle (daughter wants the Amazons because they’re smaller and less scary to her, son will get the greys).

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You are in my thoughts ZDU Sunday #1
Perfect.... JoeOtterbein Sunday #2
It gets better, Amigo JoseBalow Sunday #3
I think, too, that what's going on in our country magnifies our other losses. CrispyQ Sunday #4
This makes sense electric_blue68 Monday #36
... Niagara Sunday #5
. LuckyCharms Sunday #6
That grief will never go away, Lucky Niagara Sunday #9
Wow that's incredible thanks for sharing! ... OldBoss Sunday #7
Thank you for the wisdom from Almaas Wild blueberry Sunday #8
A few days ago? Lulu KC Sunday #10
Wonderful post, LC. Felicita Sunday #11
That's the advice I give everyone who has lost a pet -- get another as soon as practical William Seger Sunday #14
Lost my longtime dog a few months ago mdbl Sunday #12
❣️ littlemissmartypants Sunday #13
i lost my last long lived cat + i soon got 2 more. i need spares. you need spares. pansypoo53219 Sunday #15
I feel like Grief is... BurnDoubt Sunday #16
For you: sinkingfeeling Sunday #17
My deepest condolences. Charlie Chapulin Sunday #18
We adopted our most recent dog in February mountain grammy Sunday #19
My heart goes out to you. . . . h2ebits Sunday #20
I'm so sorry. I feel you...my brother died of Covid in 2021 and my dog's death is LuckyCharms Sunday #26
Indeed. . . . h2ebits Sunday #32
Phew! catchnrelease Sunday #21
I'm so sorry... LuckyCharms Sunday #25
Thanks catchnrelease Sunday #29
I'm so sorry, Lucky. Been there twice before. Diamond_Dog Sunday #22
My condolences lucky. Your explanation makes sense of my recent experience. Ilikepurple Sunday #23
Oh my...you nailed my feelings exactly. LuckyCharms Sunday #27
Anyone who has given his heart to another being understands what you are going through, Lucky. Bumbles Sunday #24
Sending you love and peace. PittBlue Sunday #28
Whoa, Thanks for Sharing That, LuckyCharms! It Definitely Hit a Nerve. The Roux Comes First Sunday #30
It's not fair buzzycrumbhunger Sunday #31
A Dog's Last Will & Testament..... Bayard Sunday #33
This message was self-deleted by its author applegrove Monday #34
That is beautiful. applegrove Monday #35
Some wonderful thoughts by that person. Another hug for you, LC. electric_blue68 Monday #37
Condolences on your loss. Beautiful, resonant quote. Timeflyer Monday #38
This is very insightful, thanks for sharing it FakeNoose Monday #39
Thanks so much for sharing that, LC. TygrBright Monday #40
All I know is that from the time I came out of the womb... hamsterjill Monday #41
Jill... LuckyCharms Monday #43
You are putting good back into the world even as you grieve, Lucky. hamsterjill Monday #44
The pets EuterpeThelo Monday #42
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