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Aussie105

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34. Caring for a wife with dementia myself.

Fri Mar 27, 2026, 08:47 PM

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An exhausting job. But I'm coping.

She doesn't want to go see a doctor for an official diagnosis, because she fears she will get 'locked up' and be forced to leave her home of over 60 years.

One of the problems of modern medicine - people live longer, but the mental decay that comes to us all at old age is still an unresolved problem.

Sympathies to all who are in the same situation, carers or sufferers.

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I have been diagnosed with dementia and am taking Memantine (sp?) [View all] CTyankee Friday OP

It sounds like a great place. And I'm glad you have medication for the dementia. That's a tough diagnosis. Scrivener7 Friday #1

Good luck snowybirdie Friday #2

I would urge every senior to get some plan together for the possibility of this happening. CTyankee Friday #3

You're not VERY close to me, but within a couple of hours. Your place sounds great. Adding it to the list of possibles Scrivener7 Saturday #46

Is this med for fronto temporal slightlv Friday #13

Mine takes snowybirdie Friday #17

Not sure. What's the difference? CTyankee Friday #22

You can do a quick search on it. The spelling in the OP is correct. soldierant Saturday #40

I'm sorry to hear about the diagnosis. area51 Friday #4

Take care, CTyankee gademocrat7 Friday #5

I am sorry to hear about this, and I am glad that you have found a place to aid you with it all. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Friday #6

It sounds as if you and your husband made really good decisions. I hate to hear your LoisB Friday #7

All the best to you. The place sounds good for you both esp with the help of your daughter. TC appalachiablue Friday #8

Comforting to know you have things in place BaronChocula Friday #9

Stay active CT! PuraVidaDreamin Friday #10

That is a tough diagnosis, but you had fortunately planned brer cat Friday #11

I will keep you in my thoughts CYT edhopper Friday #12

Oh, Ed, it's so nice to hear from you! We are oldtimers here! CTyankee Saturday #50

Yes edhopper Saturday #54

I was diagnoised with FTD (a dementia) over 10 years ago Omaha Steve Friday #14

Best wishes. Sounds like you made a wise decision. AZ8theist Friday #15

""" AllaN01Bear Friday #16

I am happy to hear you are in a safe place. Best of luck to you both. Joinfortmill Friday #18

wow--sounds like a whirlwind the past four months (probably longer than that -- moving is a big deal) orleans Friday #19

One of the first things we did! Hubby was insistent on that! CTyankee Friday #24

LOL! PERFECT!! (and good for him!) orleans Friday #27

Good luck to you. Dyedinthewoolliberal Friday #20

I hope so, too! CTyankee Friday #26

All the best CT mountain grammy Friday #21

Hugs to you both, CTyankee, debm55 Friday #23

.... Clouds Passing Friday #25

I sure didn't want to read this post, but I wish you all the very best. hamsterjill Friday #28

One thing I want to do is let folks hear know about my new book: The Gladdened Heart: the ART of Music CTyankee Saturday #41

Sorry to hear that, CTyankee wendyb-NC Friday #29

Glad you are being well taken care of. So sorry for the diagnosis. applegrove Friday #30

Best of luck Faux pas Friday #31

I'm sorry to hear that. Solly Mack Friday #32

You've described your circumstances some_of_us_are_sane Friday #33

Caring for a wife with dementia myself. Aussie105 Friday #34

I am so glad you were able to make those decisions - TBF Friday #35

Your planning was such a wise decision, and it sounds as if you have... 3catwoman3 Friday #36

I am so happy to hear that you feel that way and that you found a really good place. 1WorldHope Friday #37

Oh dear! At least you're both in a good place electric_blue68 Friday #38

Your wisdom and practicality in dealing with these challenges is an example to me summer_in_TX Friday #39

Fight sis fight malaise Saturday #42

You and your husband are inspiring. Bumbles Saturday #43

glad you are doing well, safe, and with everything in place. peacebuzzard Saturday #44

I'm so sorry to hear about your diagnosis, CTyankee, but it sounds like you're on a good med (I googled highplainsdem Saturday #45

Best wishes, although I will say your writing shows no sign of dementia, certainly nowhere near the orange pedophile's. NNadir Saturday #47

thank you for sharing with us Phentex Saturday #48

It sounds like you are in very good hands FakeNoose Saturday #49

I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis & troubles, but glad you have a good network of support. CrispyQ Saturday #51

Sorry about the diagnosis, but you could go many years and still be okay, as has been mentioned, so Doodley Saturday #52

My in-laws made the same move after living in their dream home underpants Saturday #53

Sorry to hear this CTY, Bayard Saturday #55