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CTyankee

(68,228 posts) Fri Mar 27, 2026, 04:14 PM Mar 27

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I have been diagnosed with dementia and am taking Memantine (sp?) [View all]

I am trying to cope. It's difficult right now since my husband is recovering from a fractured foot and is laid up with a big cast at our retirement community"s rehab center.

We are in the best place for these calamities. We sold our house and moved to Masonicare in Wallingford, CT 4 months ago. We took advantage of a real estate situation that hugely increased our house's value. I was starting to have symptoms of dementia and my husband has had spinal stenosis and uses a walker to get around. That's when we figured we'd be better off in a place that helped us with our two disabilities.

I couldn't be happier with this decision. I was very pleasantly surprised that the food was so excellent. Bravo to the chef. Cooking had become a huge chore as I have lower back arthritis. Masonicare has a wonderful workout/exercise area and special programs for people who need physical therapy (just about everybody here!). They have a shuttle for people who need therapy/treatment at a local facility of Yale New Haven Hospital.

My daughter is in charge of paying our bills and has Power of Attorney for me which luckily gotten just a few months earlier. It saves us time, effort and worry. I would recommend it to anyone in a situation such as ours.

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I have been diagnosed with dementia and am taking Memantine (sp?) [View all] CTyankee Mar 27 OP

It sounds like a great place. And I'm glad you have medication for the dementia. That's a tough diagnosis. Scrivener7 Mar 27 #1

Good luck snowybirdie Mar 27 #2

I would urge every senior to get some plan together for the possibility of this happening. CTyankee Mar 27 #3

You're not VERY close to me, but within a couple of hours. Your place sounds great. Adding it to the list of possibles Scrivener7 Mar 28 #46

Is this med for fronto temporal slightlv Mar 27 #13

Mine takes snowybirdie Mar 27 #17

Not sure. What's the difference? CTyankee Mar 27 #22

You can do a quick search on it. The spelling in the OP is correct. soldierant Mar 28 #40

I'm sorry to hear about the diagnosis. area51 Mar 27 #4

Take care, CTyankee gademocrat7 Mar 27 #5

I am sorry to hear about this, and I am glad that you have found a place to aid you with it all. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Mar 27 #6

It sounds as if you and your husband made really good decisions. I hate to hear your LoisB Mar 27 #7

All the best to you. The place sounds good for you both esp with the help of your daughter. TC appalachiablue Mar 27 #8

Comforting to know you have things in place BaronChocula Mar 27 #9

Stay active CT! PuraVidaDreamin Mar 27 #10

That is a tough diagnosis, but you had fortunately planned brer cat Mar 27 #11

I will keep you in my thoughts CYT edhopper Mar 27 #12

Oh, Ed, it's so nice to hear from you! We are oldtimers here! CTyankee Mar 28 #50

Yes edhopper Mar 28 #54

I was diagnoised with FTD (a dementia) over 10 years ago Omaha Steve Mar 27 #14

Do you have physical therapy or do you do an exercise routine regularly? CTyankee Tuesday #56

I don't have a routine Omaha Steve Tuesday #57

Best wishes. Sounds like you made a wise decision. AZ8theist Mar 27 #15

""" AllaN01Bear Mar 27 #16

I am happy to hear you are in a safe place. Best of luck to you both. Joinfortmill Mar 27 #18

wow--sounds like a whirlwind the past four months (probably longer than that -- moving is a big deal) orleans Mar 27 #19

One of the first things we did! Hubby was insistent on that! CTyankee Mar 27 #24

LOL! PERFECT!! (and good for him!) orleans Mar 27 #27

Good luck to you. Dyedinthewoolliberal Mar 27 #20

I hope so, too! CTyankee Mar 27 #26

All the best CT mountain grammy Mar 27 #21

Hugs to you both, CTyankee, debm55 Mar 27 #23

.... Clouds Passing Mar 27 #25

I sure didn't want to read this post, but I wish you all the very best. hamsterjill Mar 27 #28

One thing I want to do is let folks hear know about my new book: The Gladdened Heart: the ART of Music CTyankee Mar 28 #41

Sorry to hear that, CTyankee wendyb-NC Mar 27 #29

Glad you are being well taken care of. So sorry for the diagnosis. applegrove Mar 27 #30

Best of luck Faux pas Mar 27 #31

I'm sorry to hear that. Solly Mack Mar 27 #32

You've described your circumstances some_of_us_are_sane Mar 27 #33

Caring for a wife with dementia myself. Aussie105 Mar 27 #34

I am so glad you were able to make those decisions - TBF Mar 27 #35

Your planning was such a wise decision, and it sounds as if you have... 3catwoman3 Mar 27 #36

I am so happy to hear that you feel that way and that you found a really good place. 1WorldHope Mar 27 #37

Oh dear! At least you're both in a good place electric_blue68 Mar 27 #38

Your wisdom and practicality in dealing with these challenges is an example to me summer_in_TX Mar 27 #39

Fight sis fight malaise Mar 28 #42

You and your husband are inspiring. Bumbles Mar 28 #43

glad you are doing well, safe, and with everything in place. peacebuzzard Mar 28 #44

I'm so sorry to hear about your diagnosis, CTyankee, but it sounds like you're on a good med (I googled highplainsdem Mar 28 #45

Best wishes, although I will say your writing shows no sign of dementia, certainly nowhere near the orange pedophile's. NNadir Mar 28 #47

thank you for sharing with us Phentex Mar 28 #48

It sounds like you are in very good hands FakeNoose Mar 28 #49

I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis & troubles, but glad you have a good network of support. CrispyQ Mar 28 #51

Sorry about the diagnosis, but you could go many years and still be okay, as has been mentioned, so Doodley Mar 28 #52

My in-laws made the same move after living in their dream home underpants Mar 28 #53

Sorry to hear this CTY, Bayard Mar 28 #55