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2. I had a woman stay with me for a couple of months because she was in hard times. She had so much stuff

Tue Mar 24, 2026, 05:39 PM

20 hrs ago

I asked her why she wouldn’t give some of that stuff away..she had dentures but a waterpic, electric toothbrushes in the bathroom, for example. She told me her xhusband had lied to her for a long time about a storage unit they had with her grandmother’s things, mementos from her younger sister that had passed away and lots of other personal items and the storage place had long auctioned off their unit so she felt safe with her things close by. I was so upset. At myself mostly because I stuck my nose in None of your Business and that lesson has never been forgotten. Live your life as your please and with whatever pleases you. These experts have no idea who we are or the circumstances. Be yourself and be happy 🌺

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OK, I have HAD it with minimalist shaming!!!! I love my stuff! [View all] Coventina 21 hrs ago OP

Views enid602 20 hrs ago #1

You better get busy then. 🤓😀❤️ littlemissmartypants 18 hrs ago #30

I had a woman stay with me for a couple of months because she was in hard times. She had so much stuff Deuxcents 20 hrs ago #2

OH MY GOD/DESS!! This hit me in the gut!!! Coventina 18 hrs ago #36

Now, this has got me 😢 I can understand your original post better. Deuxcents 17 hrs ago #51

Such generational trauma runs in the family. Coventina 17 hrs ago #52

Sad what happens to little children and the adults don't realize or say..they'll get over it 😔 Deuxcents 17 hrs ago #54

I'm not a minimalist and I love my treasures Niagara 20 hrs ago #3

I figure I gave up a SECURE job in broadcasting to go home and be a full time mom. calimary 19 hrs ago #4

Right on! StarryNite 19 hrs ago #5

Minimalism jworks OK for people who go to work , come home Warpy 19 hrs ago #6

After volunteering for years with arts and children's causes... littlemissmartypants 18 hrs ago #32

Hear, hear!! THANK YOU for saying this! EuterpeThelo 19 hrs ago #7

ding . this . AllaN01Bear 19 hrs ago #9

Keeper of the flame is a noble endeavor. ❤️ littlemissmartypants 18 hrs ago #35

Sun and Moon in Cancer here. I love everything you said!!! Coventina 18 hrs ago #38

its my stuff , leave me alone . and everything is allocated to another person via a will AllaN01Bear 19 hrs ago #8

I'm with you! mtngirl47 19 hrs ago #10

That's ME! Word for word BigmanPigman 19 hrs ago #11

I could not possibly agree more. Tomorrow (Good Lord willing and the creek don't rise), I am LoisB 19 hrs ago #12

I want to keep that which I care about The Madcap 19 hrs ago #13

Atta gurl! QueerDuck 19 hrs ago #14

Good for you ms.pamela 19 hrs ago #15

About china.... LisaM 19 hrs ago #16

Hells to the yes! EuterpeThelo 19 hrs ago #18

That's wonderful! I recently found my great-grandmother's butterchurn. I may even have a churning party! ❤️ littlemissmartypants 18 hrs ago #29

That should be fun. One of my friends is into making his own butter. niyad 17 hrs ago #53

With a hand churn? It takes a village. ❤️ littlemissmartypants 17 hrs ago #55

He's a big, tough guy! niyad 17 hrs ago #56

It takes hours and people usually have to take turns. littlemissmartypants 17 hrs ago #57

Actually, I think you are correct. All I know is that I am NOT volunteering niyad 17 hrs ago #58

Hahaha. Don't worry. I'll be glad to butter your bread. You wouldn't have to lift a finger. littlemissmartypants 16 hrs ago #59

And I would be happy to be there. I can bring goodies! niyad 16 hrs ago #60

Absolutely! We'll butter everything! 😀 littlemissmartypants 16 hrs ago #61

Pate, Brie, good baguettes, MUST have good butter! niyad 16 hrs ago #63

Absolutely! ❤️ littlemissmartypants 16 hrs ago #64

wonderful thought there. I hereby award a gold star ... -- best post -- stopdiggin 18 hrs ago #31

Really good post. Struggling with these issues as we type. Evolve Dammit 19 hrs ago #17

Right with you Dammit. nt Prairie_Seagull 18 hrs ago #21

Marie Kondo? Isn't she the one who said "Ideally, you should own fewer than thirty books"? Aristus 19 hrs ago #19

MORE!!! niyad 18 hrs ago #26

Years ago, I had a dear friend, whose dating life amused me no end. niyad 18 hrs ago #45

He lack of reading undoubtedly explains his numerous fiascos. Aristus 15 hrs ago #68

I think you are correct about his fiascos, although they provided me niyad 13 hrs ago #69

For one of our moves, we had 50 boxes of books. 3catwoman3 16 hrs ago #65

No scholar would take that seriously. Thirty REFERENCE books is not even a start. eppur_se_muova 13 hrs ago #70

Yeah. Right on. Fuck Marie Kondo. Who the hell does she think she is? FadedMullet 18 hrs ago #20

Who the hell is she??? niyad 18 hrs ago #27

You go!! Joinfortmill 18 hrs ago #22

Very righteous rant, Coventina. I can't agree more. littlemissmartypants 18 hrs ago #23

Fun fact: After Marie Kondo cluttered her house with a bunch of kids flvegan 18 hrs ago #24

You have every right to do what's best for you. hamsterjill 18 hrs ago #25

Whew! Glad we got THAT off of our chest! stopdiggin 18 hrs ago #28

Who can trust a woman that doesn't want more than a few books (that crazy Kondo lady) - TBF 18 hrs ago #33

I'll keep other people's books. But not without their consent. ❤️ littlemissmartypants 18 hrs ago #40

Darned straight. Enjoy it! Raven123 18 hrs ago #34

$160 a month for storage x 15 years BidenRocks 18 hrs ago #37

I am 100% against putting stuff in paid storage. Coventina 18 hrs ago #42

EBay? I think you'd be surprised if you advertised. The post office littlemissmartypants 18 hrs ago #44

Yes! I'm keeping my stuff too. OnionPatch 18 hrs ago #39

EXACTLY!!! niyad 18 hrs ago #43

In the past month, I have seen at least two dozen of these minimalist, niyad 18 hrs ago #41

Live your own life BeneteauBum 18 hrs ago #46

Marie Kondo can take a big dumpster and shove it where usonian 18 hrs ago #47

I saw a homeless guy last week riding his bicycle JoseBalow 18 hrs ago #48

Psychologists keep trying to label normal behaviors as disease delisen 17 hrs ago #49

I enjoy being a loner as my home is full of treasures that I can ...occupy littlemissmartypants 17 hrs ago #50

Art, music collections, JBTaurus83 16 hrs ago #62

I have thoroughly enjoyed this thread. 3catwoman3 16 hrs ago #66

💯% with you Figarosmom 15 hrs ago #67