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I used to do companion care for Seniors (generally aged 70's thru 90's).
When one of my clients was moved into a facility, on the first night, having failed to convince his relatives, this gentleman called me at 2 AM to "Get me OUT of Here !".

Regarding the phone calls, if they become a problem it is pretty standard to take away the loved ones cell phone.
Also, with memory care/dementia, in many cases they eventually lose the ability to use a cell phone.

No matter what decisions you make along this path, things will happen that no one anticipated. This is especially true of health /medical decisions. Sometimes, ALL of the options have substantial risk of downsides, as does "do nothing", and "leave it to the specialists".

You are doing the best that you can. Be kind to yourself.