General Discussion

while my step-father only slapped me open-handed; he, out-weighing my brother by a hundred pounds, beat him so badly that he left home at 14. No one ever called him 'Dad'; not even his own children from his 1st marriage. We became friends only after I left home. When I had a son of my own who called him 'Pa', he became a changed man - upon his death, he left his estate to son and me. You are so right that life changes thru the years.
We can't change the past - we can only try to change the future for the better.