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MorbidButterflyTat

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32. That sounds terrifying

Sat Mar 14, 2026, 03:12 PM

23 hrs ago

"Would they have needed to contact a judge? Who knows? But I know I would have put my infant and myself at risk by refusing."

That's scary. I remember feeling scared when my labor had to be induced, there are so many things that can go wrong! Why would a woman demand to go through something potentially dangerous to herself AND her baby?!

Because this "mother or baby" argument is disingenuous, since both are vulnerable and choosing sides is gross.

(Sorry, I responded to the wrong post.)

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They Didn't Want to Have C-Sections. A Judge Would Decide How They Gave Birth. [View all] WhiskeyGrinder Yesterday OP

a 3 hr hearing when she is in ACTIVE LABOR??!!!! mopinko Yesterday #1

Wow. That is appalling. The child is more important than the woman, no matter what. Biophilic Yesterday #2

Extreme situation. But perhaps it was the safest option for woman and child. paleotn Yesterday #4

What's extreme about this situation is forcing someone who's in active labor into a court hearing to establish legally WhiskeyGrinder Yesterday #5

What about dying makes it unacceptable? paleotn Yesterday #6

People make medical decisions that result in their own deaths all the time. WhiskeyGrinder Yesterday #7

And that's perfectly fine with me. paleotn 21 hrs ago #37

You're reccing your own posts? Crunchy Frog 10 hrs ago #67

So what. I didn't rec if 4 TIMES paleotn 4 hrs ago #76

Exhibit A: all those Jehovah's Witnesses who refuse blood transfusions for themselves OR their children. ShazzieB 21 hrs ago #39

The pregnant woman's profession was assisting women to deliver safely....got it? Hope22 Yesterday #9

Exactly what part of viable, at term, and in fetal distress do you not fucking understand? paleotn 21 hrs ago #38

Your last sentence... GenThePerservering 20 hrs ago #42

Tell that to the person who I responded to, not me. paleotn 20 hrs ago #43

The hearing was three hours long. Quiet Em 19 hrs ago #46

She was in labor for 12 freaking hours!!!!!! paleotn 19 hrs ago #47

and? Quiet Em 18 hrs ago #48

And? An obstetrics team is going to go to all that trouble unless it's for a good reason? paleotn 17 hrs ago #57

No, I'm not an OB-GYN and neither are you. Quiet Em 16 hrs ago #59

SO WHAT!? paleotn 4 hrs ago #75

You seem to believe you know a lot Quiet Em 4 hrs ago #77

And you know that how? paleotn 4 hrs ago #78

What crap has your partner seen many, many times? Quiet Em 4 hrs ago #79

Fine. You don't want trained, profession opinion, go treat yourself. paleotn 4 hrs ago #80

Why are you so hostile? Quiet Em 4 hrs ago #81

Ah, you're being omniscient again. paleotn 4 hrs ago #82

My son was born after 30 hrs. of labor. Whats your point? Lochloosa 18 hrs ago #50

Medical professionals didn't go to this extreme unless there was good reason. paleotn 17 hrs ago #56

12 hours of labor is NOT. VERY. LONG. Crunchy Frog 10 hrs ago #68

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The woman stated she had already had a life threatening complication from a C Section. Hope22 15 hrs ago #61

Yes, I'm willing to sacrifice the lives of some full term fetuses to protect women's rights to bodily autonomy. Crunchy Frog 11 hrs ago #66

It was the woman's profession, but in her own case she was not making the safest decision karynnj 20 hrs ago #44

3 prior c-sections Freddie 17 hrs ago #53

Completely agree karynnj 17 hrs ago #54

My first was a C-section buzzycrumbhunger 17 hrs ago #58

If ONLY the decision was based on the health and welfare of the mother... the existing slightlv 19 hrs ago #45

The patient in question is a doula. usedtobedemgurl 18 hrs ago #49

Because she's a doula doesn't mean she is a good doula. ToxMarz 18 hrs ago #51

Sure. Of course a judge knows better. Ok. usedtobedemgurl 13 hrs ago #62

No, I am not saying that ToxMarz 4 hrs ago #74

Ok usedtobedemgurl 3 hrs ago #83

I worked in that field. When you're in the hospital, you don't have a choice. LeftInTX Yesterday #20

It's not as rare as people think, and it doesn't matter if someone thinks it's "safest". Crunchy Frog 11 hrs ago #65

only the fetus stage Kali Yesterday #8

Yup, the kid is on his or her own. Biophilic Yesterday #19

It seems to me... GiqueCee 23 hrs ago #34

... Solly Mack Yesterday #3

Whose body is it? dlk Yesterday #10

In states like Florida, the state has control over a woman's body erronis Yesterday #11

It's not just Florida. In almost 30 states, hospitals can override the advance directives of pregnant people. WhiskeyGrinder Yesterday #14

Darwin's body. paleotn 21 hrs ago #36

Jeezus. If men gave birth, this would not be a thing. Joinfortmill Yesterday #12

Eh, men do give birth and it still is a thing, but likely because of the discrimination trans men face. WhiskeyGrinder Yesterday #13

I've had four c-sections Mossfern Yesterday #15

I'm so glad you and your babies survived these! erronis Yesterday #17

Thank you for this thoughtful post. LisaM Yesterday #21

I think the trauma Mossfern Yesterday #24

I was a nurse in newborn. LeftInTX Yesterday #23

I was surprised to learn episiotomies aren't recommended anymore Sympthsical 23 hrs ago #33

I had three kids: LeftInTX 22 hrs ago #35

Interesting. Thank you for sharing! Sympthsical 17 hrs ago #55

I have also had four c-sections. Bettie 5 hrs ago #72

Beyond appalling. Mother first, unless both can be saved & the mother's wishes unclear (& she is hlthe2b Yesterday #16

I was going to share this. Thank you so much for doing it! ... littlemissmartypants Yesterday #18

Hands off women's wombs. perverts! GreenWave Yesterday #22

Women of reproductive age need to get the hell out of Florida. This is absurd. Quiet Em Yesterday #25

I see no reason for a judge to be called into this. Ilsa Yesterday #26

If it's an emergency C-Sect, fetal distress, certain maternal conditions, unknown fetal conditions etc. LeftInTX Yesterday #28

Oh, I know, I've been there. I was relieved when Ilsa Yesterday #29

This message was self-deleted by its author MorbidButterflyTat 23 hrs ago #31

That sounds terrifying MorbidButterflyTat 23 hrs ago #32

I lived in a county that for a time had the highest Ilsa Yesterday #27

Wondering... MorbidButterflyTat 23 hrs ago #30

I read the ProPublica article cksmithy 21 hrs ago #40

Glad I posted this thread. It's good to get a reminder about just how easily so many people are willing to sign away WhiskeyGrinder 20 hrs ago #41

3 prior c-sections are a HUGE risk. But, AllyCat 18 hrs ago #52

This story really bothered me so I did some more research Quiet Em 15 hrs ago #60

This is like Rosemary's baby! C Moon 11 hrs ago #63

This is absolutely disgusting. Under no circumstances should women ever be robbed of the right to Crunchy Frog 11 hrs ago #64

Interesting to see how much anti-choice sentiment there really is here on DU. Article and the responses Crunchy Frog 10 hrs ago #69

Agree. WhiskeyGrinder 5 hrs ago #71

OMG 😳 this is insane. The hospital was so wrong in this. If it was me I would be so furious what they did TommieMommy 5 hrs ago #70