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Mossfern

(4,701 posts)
15. I've had four c-sections
Sat Mar 14, 2026, 11:52 AM
Yesterday

The first pregnancy - 3 weeks past due date -I was in labor for close to 48 hours including 8 hours on pitocin. They finally took me up to x-ray and found cephalopelvic disproportion. Second pregnancy I went into labor 6 weeks early because I had been throwing furniture around trying to save it from a broken pipe. The doctor gave me a test of labor for a few hours and then advised a c-section because again labor wasn't progressing. I went into shock from that surgery. My tiny daughter and I survived. Third pregnancy, I went into labor when my water broke on my exact due date - there was meconium in the amnionic fluid. Had an emergency c-section. The umbilical cord was wrapped around my son's neck and he was suffocating. He would have died if I didn't have the surgery. For my 4th pregnancy I insisted to go through a test of labor. My regular doc was on vacation. I refused to sign the consent form for surgery. The doctor on call called my doc who spoke with me on the phone. He had delivered my last child. He told me that my uterus was "paper thin" and that there was a severe risk of it rupturing.

He sounded frantic. I trusted him and agreed to the c-section. At the time I was a medical herbalist - I had had a bit of education and training but not so much that I would ever go against a competent doctors advice - I was taught that in my training. In this instance I think the doula was considering philosophical reasons and not necessarily what was best for the mother and baby.

We tied my tubes during my fourth c-section delivery.

Note: this is just my experience, but I do understand how the doctor and hospital were covering themselves in this instance.

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a 3 hr hearing when she is in ACTIVE LABOR??!!!! mopinko Yesterday #1
Wow. That is appalling. The child is more important than the woman, no matter what. Biophilic Yesterday #2
Extreme situation. But perhaps it was the safest option for woman and child. paleotn Yesterday #4
What's extreme about this situation is forcing someone who's in active labor into a court hearing to establish legally WhiskeyGrinder Yesterday #5
What about dying makes it unacceptable? paleotn Yesterday #6
People make medical decisions that result in their own deaths all the time. WhiskeyGrinder Yesterday #7
And that's perfectly fine with me. paleotn Yesterday #37
You're reccing your own posts? Crunchy Frog 15 hrs ago #67
So what. I didn't rec if 4 TIMES paleotn 9 hrs ago #76
Exhibit A: all those Jehovah's Witnesses who refuse blood transfusions for themselves OR their children. ShazzieB Yesterday #39
The pregnant woman's profession was assisting women to deliver safely....got it? Hope22 Yesterday #9
Exactly what part of viable, at term, and in fetal distress do you not fucking understand? paleotn Yesterday #38
Your last sentence... GenThePerservering Yesterday #42
Tell that to the person who I responded to, not me. paleotn Yesterday #43
The hearing was three hours long. Quiet Em Yesterday #46
She was in labor for 12 freaking hours!!!!!! paleotn Yesterday #47
and? Quiet Em 23 hrs ago #48
And? An obstetrics team is going to go to all that trouble unless it's for a good reason? paleotn 22 hrs ago #57
No, I'm not an OB-GYN and neither are you. Quiet Em 21 hrs ago #59
SO WHAT!? paleotn 9 hrs ago #75
You seem to believe you know a lot Quiet Em 9 hrs ago #77
And you know that how? paleotn 9 hrs ago #78
What crap has your partner seen many, many times? Quiet Em 9 hrs ago #79
Fine. You don't want trained, profession opinion, go treat yourself. paleotn 9 hrs ago #80
Why are you so hostile? Quiet Em 9 hrs ago #81
Ah, you're being omniscient again. paleotn 9 hrs ago #82
My son was born after 30 hrs. of labor. Whats your point? Lochloosa 23 hrs ago #50
Medical professionals didn't go to this extreme unless there was good reason. paleotn 22 hrs ago #56
12 hours of labor is NOT. VERY. LONG. Crunchy Frog 15 hrs ago #68
Post removed Post removed 9 hrs ago #73
The woman stated she had already had a life threatening complication from a C Section. Hope22 20 hrs ago #61
Yes, I'm willing to sacrifice the lives of some full term fetuses to protect women's rights to bodily autonomy. Crunchy Frog 16 hrs ago #66
It was the woman's profession, but in her own case she was not making the safest decision karynnj Yesterday #44
3 prior c-sections Freddie 22 hrs ago #53
Completely agree karynnj 22 hrs ago #54
My first was a C-section buzzycrumbhunger 22 hrs ago #58
If ONLY the decision was based on the health and welfare of the mother... the existing slightlv Yesterday #45
The patient in question is a doula. usedtobedemgurl 23 hrs ago #49
Because she's a doula doesn't mean she is a good doula. ToxMarz 23 hrs ago #51
Sure. Of course a judge knows better. Ok. usedtobedemgurl 18 hrs ago #62
No, I am not saying that ToxMarz 9 hrs ago #74
Ok usedtobedemgurl 8 hrs ago #83
I worked in that field. When you're in the hospital, you don't have a choice. LeftInTX Yesterday #20
It's not as rare as people think, and it doesn't matter if someone thinks it's "safest". Crunchy Frog 16 hrs ago #65
only the fetus stage Kali Yesterday #8
Yup, the kid is on his or her own. Biophilic Yesterday #19
It seems to me... GiqueCee Yesterday #34
... Solly Mack Yesterday #3
Whose body is it? dlk Yesterday #10
In states like Florida, the state has control over a woman's body erronis Yesterday #11
It's not just Florida. In almost 30 states, hospitals can override the advance directives of pregnant people. WhiskeyGrinder Yesterday #14
Darwin's body. paleotn Yesterday #36
Jeezus. If men gave birth, this would not be a thing. Joinfortmill Yesterday #12
Eh, men do give birth and it still is a thing, but likely because of the discrimination trans men face. WhiskeyGrinder Yesterday #13
I've had four c-sections Mossfern Yesterday #15
I'm so glad you and your babies survived these! erronis Yesterday #17
Thank you for this thoughtful post. LisaM Yesterday #21
I think the trauma Mossfern Yesterday #24
I was a nurse in newborn. LeftInTX Yesterday #23
I was surprised to learn episiotomies aren't recommended anymore Sympthsical Yesterday #33
I had three kids: LeftInTX Yesterday #35
Interesting. Thank you for sharing! Sympthsical 22 hrs ago #55
I have also had four c-sections. Bettie 9 hrs ago #72
Beyond appalling. Mother first, unless both can be saved & the mother's wishes unclear (& she is hlthe2b Yesterday #16
I was going to share this. Thank you so much for doing it! ... littlemissmartypants Yesterday #18
Hands off women's wombs. perverts! GreenWave Yesterday #22
Women of reproductive age need to get the hell out of Florida. This is absurd. Quiet Em Yesterday #25
I see no reason for a judge to be called into this. Ilsa Yesterday #26
If it's an emergency C-Sect, fetal distress, certain maternal conditions, unknown fetal conditions etc. LeftInTX Yesterday #28
Oh, I know, I've been there. I was relieved when Ilsa Yesterday #29
This message was self-deleted by its author MorbidButterflyTat Yesterday #31
That sounds terrifying MorbidButterflyTat Yesterday #32
I lived in a county that for a time had the highest Ilsa Yesterday #27
Wondering... MorbidButterflyTat Yesterday #30
I read the ProPublica article cksmithy Yesterday #40
Glad I posted this thread. It's good to get a reminder about just how easily so many people are willing to sign away WhiskeyGrinder Yesterday #41
3 prior c-sections are a HUGE risk. But, AllyCat 23 hrs ago #52
This story really bothered me so I did some more research Quiet Em 20 hrs ago #60
This is like Rosemary's baby! C Moon 16 hrs ago #63
This is absolutely disgusting. Under no circumstances should women ever be robbed of the right to Crunchy Frog 16 hrs ago #64
Interesting to see how much anti-choice sentiment there really is here on DU. Article and the responses Crunchy Frog 15 hrs ago #69
Agree. WhiskeyGrinder 10 hrs ago #71
OMG 😳 this is insane. The hospital was so wrong in this. If it was me I would be so furious what they did TommieMommy 10 hrs ago #70
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