General Discussion

ya know, back in the good old days when I could only have a checking account if my father was the one who signed the checks and his name was on top of mine. "Ok. Hold this for me. After my brother picks me up I can see if my dad will sign this now so please hold it for me?"

You just say no. If you think they will beat you up or other awful things they do then you have to prepare in advance. Or you can just leave if he won't chase you down.

I was young enough that the money problem did not mean as much to me as it does now as a grownup. You could always get a menial job if nothing else, or two.

I never understood why we could not get passed all this a long long time ago. We were mad enough, were sick to death of our "place" enough and strong enough. What did we miss? I believe that we left enough room for women who did not feel so out of power doing the things we were fighting. We did all the good things that used to work but all we got was some press with giggles from the men and sadly some of the women.

Perhaps we should look at it that way. Maybe that has been done and I missed it. There is simply no reason for things to be this way now.

I hate to say much (really) because I finally landed myself in a place where I can be pretty darned free with my only encumbrances of my own. It was not a lot of fun getting here and it is far from perfect. For me, after I got here, it took a lot of thinking and working in my brain to make it suit me.