There is VA Aid and Attendance if he served during wartime. PM me and I'll give you the name of a VA accredited attorney who works across the US. I am in Wisconsin, if your folks are here.

The Aid and Attendance benefit is invaluable. It can be tricky to navigate, but there are Seniors groups that can walk you through it. Those benefits also include their spouses. You will probably need to dig out his discharge papers though (DD214). Do not wait another day!!!!!

I'm checking it out now. I'm going to print it off and have the VA or Home Health Soc worker check into it. Thank you all so much.

County's have Veterans Service Officers who are not VA employees and it has been experience that all are not equally helpful or knowledgeable. As a VA-certified attorney, I encourage you to use a VA-certified attorney. We CAN't charge for the services and we don't feel like the VA is our private stash and don't want others to use it. I've been doing this a long time.

Contact the closest VFW or American Legion in the area - They should be able to get you in touch with a VA benefits counselor familiar with both the VA and your home state Veterans agency.

Good luck.

Edited to add - PM me if you live in Illinois, I work with a former VFW State Commander, I can put you in touch with him

My dad does belong to the VFW..I will check that out.

Hes connected with the local VA and they are just now going to start therapies with him. The learning curve for me is going to be so steep I thought I would try to enlist the knowledge of others who have gone thru the VA for resources.. instead of me re inventing the wheel over and over....and over...again. The VA did call me and say he qualified for 'adult day care'...45 miles away from here. Why would I do that? anyway hes NOT to that point ( some parkinsons, some dementia, some stroke related aphasia, mostly deaf). hes mostly impulsive ( as he was 45 yrs ago!) and a stubborn old marine.

We are trying to keep mom and dad as independent as possible for as long as we can.

Are they eligible for a VA home loan at their age? ( I live in a one bedroom home waaaay up in the mtns.)

Maybe rent your place out and retro fit their house for you and yours?

Keeping them in familiar surroundings will help them in their latter years.

They follow medicare guidelines which is that the will cover the motor but not the chair itself. The medicall guidelines also for it to be covered are really tight. Your best bet on the chair is Craigs List. I got my 86 year old mom a $700 chair for $225. Unfortunately the kids bought it new 8 weeks before she died.

At the VA ask to talk to a Social Worker. If they are of no help contact the American Legion and/or the VFW at the National level. They can be of great assistance.

As for a mortgage I don't think the VA can discriminate because of age good luck keep us updated

I never thought about that. Checking right now!

Assuming he has not used it to buy a home already, he is eligible to get a VA guaranteed home loan. Just be aware, the VA does not make the loan, as they used to do. They guarantee the loan, but a private lender has to make the loan. This might not work for your dad because of his age.

ok.... I saw the ad on tv and then it did say they weren't connected to the VA. I will check further into it. I want them to get into a retirement community in my town. They aren't ready for assisted living yet. My 104 yr old mother in law lived with family until a week before she passed. Hopefully my parents will be as lucky as she was.

The VA pays counties across the country to hire veterans service officers. Their job is to help vets qualify for various benefits. Call your county government and ask them if they have such a person.

in assisted living or nursing home rent.

...thank you all for your posts. Even if i didnt answer I appreciated every single one of them...

Lost my dad this past year, too. Tough times for our old vets and us too. He was lucky to have you trying to help him.