It’s good that he has a safe home to go to. Take care of yourself now, at least a little. Ok?

Too many elderly people insist on staying in their home long after they are no longer capable of living on their own. Starting three years ago, it took my sister and me two years to get our brother and his wife out of their home of some 45 years, into assisted living. It's why I fully intend to move myself into independent/assisted living in the foreseeable future. I'm 75 now, and I'm ready to give up the constraints of home ownership. I'm waiting for My Son The Astronomer to finish his PhD, and depending on where he finds a job, I might well re-locate across the country to be closer to him.

is here for you, if you have need of us.

You did the right thing, even if he will tell you he was perfectly fine on his own. You had no choice. My mother was like that. She kept falling down but was angry when my sister moved her into her home and hired a home health aide to stay with her during the day. She kept insisting she was fine living alone.

It tough all around and I feel for you.

A friend is going to have to make this decision soon, and his mom is fighting him with everything she's got. His brother, who is also caring for her, is not sure yet. I don't know what's going to happen, but she definitely needs to be someplace where she can be looked after 24/7.

Truth is, caregivers emotionally feel like every day will be like all the days before. They don't notice tiny incremental decline, where balance is closer to imbalance or cold weather makes the lips a little too blue. So the tipping point gets closer and closer until one day something new happens and it's not beneficial. You are lucky he's safe, you did the right thing for him.

It must be hard.

...help decrease wandering outside. Dementia impairs sensory abilities as well as cognitive. A black rug looks like a big hole for someone sensory impaired. Hopefully your sis is keeping doors alarmed as well. Sorry you're having to let go sooner than you expected. Dementia is a horrible illness. Take care.

Is not a gradual decline, and so many people tried to warn me. Loss of function is ragged, with cliff drop-offs. He had a seminal moment of wandering and that’s such a safety risk for all the reasons you stated.
So this had to be, but you are left reeling as the caregiver, bc it changed everything. I am so sorry. Sending you a hug. There is no way to ease your sense of loss easily.

Going into a memory care for my mom had a one-day-could-have-her-with-me-still to
Not-sure-I-can-keep-her-safe situation. It’s heartbreaking.
Hopefully you can zoom or FaceTime a little? They remember sometimes better than they can articulate.