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no_hypocrisy

(49,193 posts)
Mon Oct 17, 2022, 05:08 PM Oct 2022

Researcher Suggests 'People Who Like To Be Alone' Are Pretty 'Badass'

Yeah!

https://awarenessact.com/researcher-sugges-people-who-like-to-be-alone-are-pretty-badass/?fbclid=IwAR1sBmBJCUYtzGwRZx_uXCHnGPc_WOo7LdZgDc2AlwjgwEg_5AwWpTBiISA

If you are someone who loves being alone don’t let other people tell you that you’re weird as a result. Being comfortable enough to enjoy your own company isn’t weird, it’s a wonderful thing. I recently came across an article written in Psychology Today that goes over how being alone isn’t a bad thing and really highlights some of the bodies of research that show just how positive it can be for us. This article was/is titled “The Badass Personalities of People Who Like Being Alone” and it was written just a few years ago by Bella DePaulo.


People who are unafraid of being single were more extraverted than those who are afraid of being single. Perhaps this finding is consistent with research showing that single people, on average, have more friends than married people do, and do more to maintain relationships with friends, neighbors, siblings, and parents. But again, the research on the social ties of single people includes all single people, not just those who are unafraid of being single.


According to DePaulo, single people or those who prefer to be alone are more helpful, caring, connected and not selfish in any sense of the word.


For unknown numbers of people, being alone is not just a preference – it is a craving, a need. Deprived of their time alone for too long, they begin to fantasize about it. Nothing feels quite right until their need for solitude is replenished.

Who are these people who like being alone? Stereotypically, they are the weirdos and the freaks, the scary loners planning shocking acts of violence. New thinking and fresh research upends those caricatures. We now have a better idea of the true personalities of people who like being alone, and they are, well, totally badass.


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Researcher Suggests 'People Who Like To Be Alone' Are Pretty 'Badass' (Original Post) no_hypocrisy Oct 2022 OP
I could have told them that. lpbk2713 Oct 2022 #1
I always feel sorry for people who cannot stand their own company Skittles Oct 2022 #2
No kidding! SheltieLover Oct 2022 #5
HOWDY SheltieLover Skittles Oct 2022 #12
Hi Skittes! SheltieLover Oct 2022 #13
Well, now as well as liking to be left alone TlalocW Oct 2022 #3
Well...I can't think of anything to top that. ret5hd Oct 2022 #4
I already did that Warpy Oct 2022 #6
As an introvert, I totally agree. Joinfortmill Oct 2022 #7
I'm glad that you posted that. jmbar2 Oct 2022 #8
We knew we were cool like that berniesandersmittens Oct 2022 #9
👇👌 Goonch Oct 2022 #10
Well, I've never been called that before, but I will take it. Butterflylady Oct 2022 #11
Thanks for sharing this, no_hypocrisy. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Oct 2022 #14
Adding video... littlemissmartypants Oct 2022 #15
No one is more in love with the sound of my own vice than I am... BadGimp Oct 2022 #16

lpbk2713

(43,201 posts)
1. I could have told them that.
Mon Oct 17, 2022, 05:32 PM
Oct 2022


I'm not antisocial. I'd just as soon not have to interact with others.

Skittles

(160,292 posts)
2. I always feel sorry for people who cannot stand their own company
Mon Oct 17, 2022, 05:45 PM
Oct 2022

what a sorry-ass way to be.....

TlalocW

(15,632 posts)
3. Well, now as well as liking to be left alone
Mon Oct 17, 2022, 05:47 PM
Oct 2022

I'm going to start setting off explosives that I walk away from in slo-mo without turning to look at them.

Warpy

(113,131 posts)
6. I already did that
Mon Oct 17, 2022, 07:00 PM
Oct 2022

I was a teenager from hell.

I've always said I'd probably be dangerous if I had any ambition. I don't.

jmbar2

(6,230 posts)
8. I'm glad that you posted that.
Mon Oct 17, 2022, 07:18 PM
Oct 2022

I've been looking for a part-time job and realize that my introversion is a barrier to technology use.

Nearly all of the jobs I'm seeing require me to be chained to my phone and a bunch of tech apps. I don't want to be available to anyone 24/7. I don't mind being somewhere when I need to, but don't want to be bound to a job with an electronic leash. I like for my mind to be able to wander, and to choose when I interact.

I think that makes me unemployable.

Butterflylady

(4,010 posts)
11. Well, I've never been called that before, but I will take it.
Mon Oct 17, 2022, 08:20 PM
Oct 2022

As long as I have my cats, Boots and Maxi, I am happy as can be. Going to bookmark this so my kids can read the article, especially the 3rd paragraph.

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