Beginning of November last year I started dating again

after not having any kind of relationship for 5 years and I have had 3. All are disasters. They all cheated rather openly, not really showing the kind of respect my ex-wife did by hiding the affairs as well as possible. I only knew about 1 before she became my wife and only came across by snooping through her stuff based on a hunch while she was gone (that is one thing I'll never do again - I go to great lengths to respect privacy even looking as far as I can the other way when someone whips out a phone and address things based on evidence).

The first relationship after my divorce, she cheated on me while I was still in the same room. I was living w/ her which she took advantage of varying wildly the amounts she required for rent(I was paying 2/3rds while her and her boyfriend paid the other 3rd).

The second one started out really well - there were some outside factors that were causing me great stress and caused me to be miserable (she often mistook that I was stressed and miserable because of her causing her to take to disappear w/ other guys). Overtime she started relationships back up w/ her ex and this other guy we both ran into who at-the-time looked better than me and probably had a better attitude. She disappeared and haven't heard from her since(I had a sense she was planning on it because she isn't straight-forward which is a trait they all share.

This recent one actually never progressed to a relationship but did more than pretty much anyone at the beginning to steer it towards that direction. I was also very sleepy the same day + (knock I'll finish post)