I never shared anything crazy b/c ex knows about DU and reads occasionally, but I did PM with some wonderful people here and I would hope I could help others deal with going through this awful experience. When you are going through it you honestly think you are the only one and when it first happened, even just reading through the posts helped. I hope it stays!!

I hope it lasts

One would have thought after 31 years we would be passed this. It is really hard to write this right now...To dam many tears..Will be back.

It made me sad to see your post. Keep your chin up, and write more when you are able.

today things do not seem as bad as when I first posted...So much has been happening to me and my family, but we will make it. But this place is needed, without a doubt...just a few words of encouragement is somtimes all that is needed. Sorry I didn't get back sooner but will check in more often...

It has potential to be very helpful.

I know for me, I really don't want to talk about all the details but would be a nice place to be able to vent, hash stuff out, etc.

I think it's helpful to have a group like this.

if they need it will be a comfort to DU'ers...like the Cancer Support forum and others.

I teared up a little.

We didn't know one another but I was often brightened when I saw her posts. I'm glad she made it here, makes it feel even more like "home".

separated now. Putting the house up for sale, and then filing.

30 years of marriage and he throws it all away for a 45 year old skank (17 yrs younger than him) who has two grown kids and never been married.

I had a rough summer. But am much much better now.

Hugs to everyone who is going thru this crap.

You'll get through it.

My spouse and I just seperated a week ago for that reason. I have been reading a lot about that and it has been helpful. Let me know if yoy would like some resources.

One can hope there is little use for it.....but when it's needed it helps.

My husband swear's he loves me. Won't have sex with me, but he can there is no dysfunction we went to a doctor. About 3 years ago a girl stated calling and leaving messages in a British accent. "Do you want to quarrel! " and so and it was summer. I was trying to wean our 4 year old son out of our bed. When I got the phone bill for the past few months, from 1am to 4am he was on the phone. The whole thing causedone me to have a nervous breakdown, and one week after a week in the mental health unit I had a scheduled hip replacement. It failed 3 times and I was in bed for a year and a half. That was 3 years ago, I can walk again but her phone number is still on my bill. Her charges on credit card and I'very shone him on Microsoft the location where my accounts are being traced from. He says I'm crazy. Jealous. It's in my head. I can't take it anymore.

My heart aches for you

jeez, you need sounding boards and advice and this group, although not totally anonymous, at least allows one to think without judgemental replies or the cost of a therapist.