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dweller

(25,243 posts)
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 12:03 PM Jul 2022

My Dad ... 1923-2022. (edit)

Last edited Wed Jul 20, 2022, 10:14 PM - Edit history (1)

My dad passed away last nite in his sleep.
He got covid again on the 12th ...(I think it was his 4th infection)
his health directives were no intubation, no hospital, DNR ... his last several days were on morphine for pain and lorazepam for anxiety. He was allowed to slip the binds of this life in peace. He would have been 99 in September...

take care everyone, covid still sux
I will be stepping away for a bit, checking in occasionally…
Thanks in advance for kind words and thoughts

I’ve come back to edit in this pic of my Dad … I’ve always called it ‘The Barefoot Sailor’ it’s sentimental to me as it’s one that my Dad sent my Mom before he shipped out in WWII, to the Philippines …
They met when he was working in the Charleston SC shipyard, became engaged before he shipped out.
On the back she had written several sentences, but it was glued into an album, and when removed 6 black felt dots from where it was glued to the page remain.

What I can read : “… San Diego … and he … wear shoes … wasn’t that an …
I think this is the cutest picture of him yet … and all”



And he came back, they married and thus my sibs and I.

I want to thank you all for the warm wishes and heartfelt messages, and am humbled by your thoughtful words … I do love my DU family !



✌🏻

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My Dad ... 1923-2022. (edit) (Original Post) dweller Jul 2022 OP
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending peaceful vibes your way. onecaliberal Jul 2022 #1
My condolences for you and family Tetrachloride Jul 2022 #2
Condolences to you and yours sazemisery Jul 2022 #3
So very sorry for your loss. skylucy Jul 2022 #4
So sorry Walleye Jul 2022 #5
Healing wishes for you in babylonsister Jul 2022 #6
I am sorry for your loss. No words ever seem sufficient to comfort a child who has lost a Atticus Jul 2022 #7
My deepest condolences MerryHolidays Jul 2022 #8
((dweller)) blm Jul 2022 #9
My sympathy to you and your family on the loss of your dad. livetohike Jul 2022 #10
My condolences. chowder66 Jul 2022 #11
Best wishes.... OAITW r.2.0 Jul 2022 #12
So sorry. Thank You for sharing. Watching a loved one slip away is painful. Going to Canada Jul 2022 #13
Holding you and your family in my heart. May consolation find you. n/t TygrBright Jul 2022 #14
Loving prayers of condolence madashelltoo Jul 2022 #15
I'm very sorry for the loss of your beloved father. 💔 GentryDixon Jul 2022 #16
My heartfelt condolences on the loss of your beloved father. /eom Backseat Driver Jul 2022 #17
I'm so very sorry for your loss. StarryNite Jul 2022 #18
Oh so sad. My condolences. flying_wahini Jul 2022 #19
Peace. dchill Jul 2022 #20
Sorry for your loss hibbing Jul 2022 #21
So sorry, Dweller Bayard Jul 2022 #22
So sorry to hear of your loss. Four infections. So sorry. Take care Evolve Dammit Jul 2022 #23
So sorry kozar Jul 2022 #24
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Jul 2022 #25
I am so sorry for your loss. May your Dad rest in peace, he was a wise man in his choice of LoisB Jul 2022 #26
May the sweet memories sustain you through your grief. Frustratedlady Jul 2022 #27
I'm so sorry. Scrivener7 Jul 2022 #28
So sorry for your loss, dweller. greatauntoftriplets Jul 2022 #29
Condolences to you and your family. yonder Jul 2022 #30
I'm so sorry, dweller. Hugs and healing wishes for you. highplainsdem Jul 2022 #31
So sorry for the loss of your Dad, Fla Dem Jul 2022 #32
I'm so sorry for your loss. barbtries Jul 2022 #33
So sorry for your loss. William769 Jul 2022 #34
Condolences flying-skeleton Jul 2022 #35
Condolences. MuseRider Jul 2022 #36
This message was self-deleted by its author ancianita Jul 2022 #37
My deep condolences, dweller. Thank you for sharing this. May you live with peace and good memories. ancianita Jul 2022 #38
My deepest condolences. sinkingfeeling Jul 2022 #39
(((hugs)))..you are a good child for allowing your dad this peace and dignity.... samnsara Jul 2022 #40
You will feel him close by whenever you need him. tavernier Jul 2022 #41
So sorry to hear pandr32 Jul 2022 #42
sending you my heartfelt sympathy orleans Jul 2022 #43
I'm so very sorry for your loss cate94 Jul 2022 #44
So sorry for your loss. CaptainTruth Jul 2022 #45
I'm so very very sorry. benfranklin1776 Jul 2022 #46
Condolences, dweller gademocrat7 Jul 2022 #47
So sorry for your loss. Mad_Dem_X Jul 2022 #48
I'm so sorry dweller. AllyCat Jul 2022 #49
I'm so sorry. Losing a parent can be very hard. Wicked Blue Jul 2022 #50
Am so sorry you lost your Dad............. I hope you have many wonderful memories of your Dad...... secondwind Jul 2022 #51
Yes, Covid still sux in a big way. JudyM Jul 2022 #52
Please accept my condolences on the loss of your dad. MontanaMama Jul 2022 #53
. NewHendoLib Jul 2022 #54
I'm so sorry, blueknight73 Jul 2022 #55
it is tough Hamlette Jul 2022 #56
Very sorry for your loss Nululu Jul 2022 #57
My condolences for your loss. Maraya1969 Jul 2022 #58
So sorry for your loss. I am glad that Dad got to leave on his own terms without pain. MLAA Jul 2022 #59
So very sorry for your loss. Peace and light to youl. virgdem Jul 2022 #60
dweller..... Upthevibe Jul 2022 #61
i am so sorry for the loss of your dad...may he rest in peace. dawn5651 Jul 2022 #62
I am so very sorry for your loss. Please know that your DU familly is here niyad Jul 2022 #63
Bless your heart, so sorry for your loss... Raster Jul 2022 #64
My condolences. Solly Mack Jul 2022 #65
Condolences 🌹 Demovictory9 Jul 2022 #66
Condolences. c-rational Jul 2022 #67
Sorry for your loss ❤️‍🩹 live love laugh Jul 2022 #68
Reading that made me cry. BigmanPigman Jul 2022 #69
Sorry, dweller. 70sEraVet Jul 2022 #70
So sorry for your loss. Scottie Mom Jul 2022 #71
So sorry for your loss kimbutgar Jul 2022 #72
I am sorry, dweller. murielm99 Jul 2022 #73
. DinahMoeHum Jul 2022 #74
Oh,{{{{{{{DWELLER}}}}}}}}.....baby, The_REAL_Ecumenist Jul 2022 #75
So very sorry for your loss. Trueblue Texan Jul 2022 #76
Oh, I am so deeply sorry, my friend... Rhiannon12866 Jul 2022 #77
I'm so sorry bluecollar2 Jul 2022 #78
So very sorry UpInArms Jul 2022 #79
No words, just love. Peace. cayugafalls Jul 2022 #80
Dweller, I'm so sorry. summer_in_TX Jul 2022 #81
So sorry for your loss. applegrove Jul 2022 #82
May your dad rest in peace! BlueMTexpat Jul 2022 #83
So sorry. ❤ littlemissmartypants Jul 2022 #84
Thanks for the wonderful tribute & photo. Condolences & peace dweller. appalachiablue Jul 2022 #85
This message was self-deleted by its author JohnnyRingo Jul 2022 #86
I'm so sorry for your loss. imavoter Jul 2022 #87

sazemisery

(2,611 posts)
3. Condolences to you and yours
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 12:08 PM
Jul 2022

Losing a parent is hard, regardless of how long a life they lived. After 3 years, I still go to dial my father's phone # when I have something I want to share with him.

Atticus

(15,124 posts)
7. I am sorry for your loss. No words ever seem sufficient to comfort a child who has lost a
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 12:19 PM
Jul 2022

parent, but it is my view that although the people we love eventually die, the love lives on.

That is how I still deal with the loss of my Mom and Dad.

livetohike

(23,050 posts)
10. My sympathy to you and your family on the loss of your dad.
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 12:35 PM
Jul 2022

May your memories and the stories you tell comfort you today and every day .

Going to Canada

(169 posts)
13. So sorry. Thank You for sharing. Watching a loved one slip away is painful.
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 12:40 PM
Jul 2022

Grieve deeply. Take time for yourself.

GentryDixon

(3,024 posts)
16. I'm very sorry for the loss of your beloved father. 💔
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 12:45 PM
Jul 2022

Regardless of age, it is never easy. I lost my parents when they were in their mid 80's. Lots of wonderful memories of lives well lived, even after these many years. 🥰

hibbing

(10,402 posts)
21. Sorry for your loss
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 12:55 PM
Jul 2022

Not sure how his quality of life was later in life, but that is a long life.
Peace

LoisB

(9,023 posts)
26. I am so sorry for your loss. May your Dad rest in peace, he was a wise man in his choice of
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 01:03 PM
Jul 2022

health directives.

Frustratedlady

(16,254 posts)
27. May the sweet memories sustain you through your grief.
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 01:11 PM
Jul 2022

He certainly lived a long life and saw a lot of changes in all those years. Too bad some of them were COVID.

Fla Dem

(25,870 posts)
32. So sorry for the loss of your Dad,
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 01:33 PM
Jul 2022

Such a shame he had to suffer through 4 infections.
May he rest in peace.


Condolences to you and all that loved him.

barbtries

(29,950 posts)
33. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 01:35 PM
Jul 2022

I'm glad he didn't have to go fighting for breath in an induced coma. Peace and love to you and your loved ones.

MuseRider

(34,408 posts)
36. Condolences.
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 01:43 PM
Jul 2022

I am so sorry to see this but you all did the right things. He went like he wanted and peacefully. (((HUGS))) I wish there was more than this to offer. Take your time and ask if you need anything.

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ancianita

(38,871 posts)
38. My deep condolences, dweller. Thank you for sharing this. May you live with peace and good memories.
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 01:44 PM
Jul 2022

tavernier

(13,284 posts)
41. You will feel him close by whenever you need him.
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 01:51 PM
Jul 2022

Dads don’t go away. I know. I lost mine some years back.
❤️

pandr32

(12,276 posts)
42. So sorry to hear
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 01:56 PM
Jul 2022

Your Dad had a long life and I hope he gifted you many wonderful memories and life lessons.
Peace.

orleans

(35,249 posts)
43. sending you my heartfelt sympathy
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 01:58 PM
Jul 2022


my mom was born in 1923 also.
i lost her thirteen years ago.

i'm very sorry for your loss. take care.

secondwind

(16,903 posts)
51. Am so sorry you lost your Dad............. I hope you have many wonderful memories of your Dad......
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 02:21 PM
Jul 2022

JudyM

(29,536 posts)
52. Yes, Covid still sux in a big way.
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 02:26 PM
Jul 2022

So sorry, this is such a hard time. Wishing you comfort.

MontanaMama

(24,087 posts)
53. Please accept my condolences on the loss of your dad.
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 02:28 PM
Jul 2022

I will keep you and yours in my heart. Losing a parent is so hard. My dad died in 2011 and I miss him every single day.

Hamlette

(15,546 posts)
56. it is tough
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 02:35 PM
Jul 2022

your post reminded me of my dad's death. It has been nearly 20 years but I still miss him.

May your memories help keep him with you.

MLAA

(18,669 posts)
59. So sorry for your loss. I am glad that Dad got to leave on his own terms without pain.
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 02:56 PM
Jul 2022

My Dad passed last October at 92 and thankfully he too left us with no pain under hospice care for liver cancer. He chose quality over quantity by refusing cancer treatment for his late stage liver cancer and left us on his own terms after, per him, 92 great years. Hope you find some comfort in your Dad’s leaving on his own terms.

💗💗💗💗💗💗

niyad

(120,663 posts)
63. I am so very sorry for your loss. Please know that your DU familly is here
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 03:43 PM
Jul 2022

for you, lean as hard as you need.

The_REAL_Ecumenist

(889 posts)
75. Oh,{{{{{{{DWELLER}}}}}}}}.....baby,
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 07:00 PM
Jul 2022

from the deepest part of my heart, I send condolences to you and the rest of your family, the friends who knew & loved your papa, may his memory & the gifts of his wisdom, life lessons, kindness, guidance & love & the very blessing of his life be the means to turn your grief & tears into lovely memories that bring back a twinkle of mirth & chuckles whenever yiu talk about him.


Again,
My deepest, most heartfelt sympathies & Warmest Regards, Dweller to you, Family & friends

Trueblue Texan

(2,999 posts)
76. So very sorry for your loss.
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 07:19 PM
Jul 2022

I know words don't really help, but you and your family are in my thoughts. Peace.

Rhiannon12866

(224,300 posts)
77. Oh, I am so deeply sorry, my friend...
Wed Jul 20, 2022, 07:24 PM
Jul 2022

Losing a parent is such a profound loss no matter the age or reason. Take care of yourself and wishing you comfort in your memories and peace to your family...

BlueMTexpat

(15,502 posts)
83. May your dad rest in peace!
Thu Jul 21, 2022, 01:30 AM
Jul 2022

My father also served with the US Navy in the South Pacific during WWII.

Your dad has likely been welcomed by many of his buddies, along with those of his loved ones who preceded him.

The picture is adorable.

All my condolences to you and yours!

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