I hope it helps to know that someday it won’t be as hard.

Please continue to share your feelings. Everyone goes through grief differently. I know you didn’t ask for advice but I can’t scroll by without trying to help. I really think there’s a depression stage. It’s been almost 2 years since my husband passed. I’ve had some health problems and had to say goodbye to my pup. It was easier when she was there to be with me. But now I feel as if I’m seeing some light. My only advice is to keep some friends close and try to get out of the house once in awhile and just ride out the dark days. Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. What you’re feeling isn’t unusual. The indecision is natural. I’m sending you lots of good thoughts.

hang in there imavoter, we care

You think you can’t go on living but you do anyway. It’s really not a choice. I hope you find some relief somehow. It’s very difficult to continue with your life after a loss like that.

It felt like I hadn’t moved past his death at all. But then a couple of weeks later the dark cloud lifted. Death might be an event but grieving is definitely a process. It often feels like two steps forward one step back. The best advice I got after my husband died was don’t do anything for a year that you can’t get out of that you don’t absolutely have to do. If FMLA is an option use it. Hang in there. I promise it gets easier.