My nephew passed away three days ago.
In 1994 he was a typical teenager, looking for his own path, when he started experiencing dizzy spells and blackouts. His teachers thought it was drugs, until a medical check revealed a cancerous brain tumor pressing against his cerebellum. Surgery removed most of the tumor, but the day after it, he experienced cranial bleeding, and he underwent an emergency surgery. These operations left him nearly deaf, partly blind in his left eye, and with serious balance and coordination problems. He lost most of the use of his left hand (he was left-handed), and radiation and chemo therapy caused skin damage, near-total hair loss, and burns to his esophagus, which affected his speech. He went on total disability, and has never been able to hold a job or otherwise have a normal life. He has lived with his mother (my sister) all his life. She has been divorced from his father since 1992, but he had been somewhat involved with my nephew's life since the divorce.
Last October, his mother died of kidney failure. His father died eight years ago. My niece was trying to find a new place for him to live, and sell mother's house, but without success to this point. Earlier this week my niece was trying to contact him, but he didn't answer phone calls or texts. Her husband went to the house to check on him, and found him dead. Medical examiner preliminarily says it was "natural causes," (at this point, I'm not sure what that means) but will have to investigate further.
Now, I have to tell my 94-year-old mother, who four months ago, lost her second daughter, that her oldest grandson has passed away. I know this is going to devastate her, but it will have to be done. I guess I'm asking this group to cross your fingers that I can break this news to Mom without crushing her. It's going to be ugly.
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My DU "family" is so amazing!
the Elders go first. I don't want to imagine losing a niece or nephew.
(((((((hugs))))))
I am so sorry
I hope that the final coroner’s report brings some measure of peace… and that you all will find strength and courage to get through these losses together.
So sorry for your loss.
Do you need to tell your mom? With the pandemic situation, is it necessary? If I were her, I'd rather not know.
Sending healing vibes go you all. 💗💗💗
Sending wishes for peace to you and your mother. This is going to be hard on both of you, I'm sure.
