It's not "a confirmation of how much he loves" us. God loving us generally strikes me as more of a Christian than a Jewish concept.

If you look at our history, the Jewish take is that god seems to love pissing all over us.

while the exodus story no doubt isn't 100% historically accurate, it's enough to just recognize that we were slaves at some point in the history of our people and to always remain grateful for our freedom and to have sympathy for those still enslaved.

to take it that way. But I have been to too many seders and spent too much time in Hebrew school to believe most Jews just take it as allegory for a larger issue of slavery. Especially since slavery is condoned in the Bible over and over again and never condemned.
The amount of times God is praised suggests it is as I have described.

In any event, we clearly grew up with very different haggadahs.

Unsurprising, as my parents and aunts and uncles stitched ours together from a number of progressive haggadahs and added some modern poems and folks songs....

Buncha hippie atheists sitting around singing songs and reciting torah texts and eating bad food. Ah, good times.

I still go to my cousin's seder. It's a time I can see family. I don't get into this, because I may be an atheist, but I am not an asshole.

Ignoring the fact that it is entirely fictional it is ethically deranged.

Did they leave that out at your house?
It is an essential part of the myth.

straight to the firstborn thing. Ok.

I thought it was all increasing punishments until pharaoh set the Jews free. I'm sure there was a lot of innocent deaths along the way. God is all powerful and perfect and good but pretty sloppy when it comes to revenge and punishment I guess.

Not so important that anyone died I don't think, just important that pharaoh was made to personally feel punishment. Through losing a child I guess. God is happy to throw away children's lives to make a point I suppose.

so there were a lot of frogs underfoot. No big deal.

hardened the Pharaoh's heart to make sure that happened.

I am obligated to point out that this story is both utterly fictional and genocidally hideous.
At this point both the mindless recital and my objections are a family ritual, and quite likely everyone else at the table wishes I would STFU. But I won’t. There is a new generation getting seated, they need to be advised.