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raccoon

(31,514 posts)
Mon Jan 13, 2020, 06:41 AM Jan 2020

Those in their 70's--what are some changes you've experienced

Mentally and emotionally since your sixties?

I’m asking because I’m approaching my 70’s.

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Those in their 70's--what are some changes you've experienced (Original Post) raccoon Jan 2020 OP
I just turned 70 a month ago.. whathehell Jan 2020 #1
Two more years before I hit the big 7-0 SCantiGOP Jan 2020 #13
Yup. whathehell Jan 2020 #15
By the time your 70 Joinfortmill Jan 2020 #2
It's like describing the changes you experienced since your 50's. Croney Jan 2020 #3
It would certainly depend on the circumstances under which you reach your 70's, 80's or whichever. 3Hotdogs Jan 2020 #4
On my more positive side, mortgage is paid off. SS and pension come in, regular. 3Hotdogs Jan 2020 #7
Not a downer, feel free to share, our emotional health is as important as Canoe52 Jan 2020 #14
I'm thinner and healthier. Traveling more solo and going sinkingfeeling Jan 2020 #5
My job was stimulating but also stressful. Now that I'm retired and in my 70s, greymattermom Jan 2020 #6
I am so sorry about your husband. PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2020 #17
I am 72 cyclonefence Jan 2020 #8
I'm genuinely distressed that for both of you PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2020 #18
I will be 72 in June... Freedomofspeech Jan 2020 #9
I thought you meant in an Polly Hennessey Jan 2020 #10
I don't think you can separate the physical lillypaddle Jan 2020 #11
Its not but it certainly beats the only possible alternative! marble falls Jan 2020 #12
Meh. Not much. PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2020 #16
For me it was 75. I'm 78 now. trof Feb 2020 #19
i'm nearly 72 and I am still changing diapers etc on my handicapped demigoddess Feb 2020 #20

whathehell

(29,873 posts)
1. I just turned 70 a month ago..
Mon Jan 13, 2020, 07:02 AM
Jan 2020

and I'm still dealing with the "aftershock" of it..There's something that seems so undeniably "old" about that number... Other than that, it's too soon to tell.

SCantiGOP

(14,302 posts)
13. Two more years before I hit the big 7-0
Mon Jan 13, 2020, 11:50 AM
Jan 2020

but the only birthday that ever caused me to pause and reflect,.............was when my oldest child turned 40.

Joinfortmill

(16,621 posts)
2. By the time your 70
Mon Jan 13, 2020, 07:05 AM
Jan 2020

If you're lucky, you like and accept yourself for who you are, forgive yourself for past transgressions, and enjoy every new day. I've spent the last 5 years completing a bucket list of things I've wanted to do or experience. It's been a fun and rewarding experience. I highly recommend it. Enjoy!

Croney

(4,926 posts)
3. It's like describing the changes you experienced since your 50's.
Mon Jan 13, 2020, 07:06 AM
Jan 2020

Pretty hard to pinpoint, unless you've had major health events or relationship changes. Watching grandkids grow up does remind one of the circle of life. With me, it's made me consider the world as a whole, and not just my little corner of it.

3Hotdogs

(13,561 posts)
4. It would certainly depend on the circumstances under which you reach your 70's, 80's or whichever.
Mon Jan 13, 2020, 07:19 AM
Jan 2020

I am 77, health is between an 8 or 9. I have a heart problem and high blood pressure that don't affect my live but are always in the back of my mind. I have photography as a hobby and hiking club, 4 hikes a week. Being in the woods, next to a flowing stream is a great pleasure.

On the down side is depression. Since Joyce died, I no longer want to go on trips or whatever. There is little joy in my life.

Then there is the problem of my housemate's health. We have lived together since 1984. All of her major organs are in distress, requiring trips to medical care, and physical therapy 6 days a week. No matter how healthy I am, I still get a twinge when friends decline or experience a health problem.

Grand kids: They are a joy but they also grow up and grow away. The oldest goes to college in Sept. We spent much time together, bird watching and photography. When he reached puberty, he wanted to spend time with his friends... understandable, but it was a sad time.

Sorry if this is too much of a downer.

3Hotdogs

(13,561 posts)
7. On my more positive side, mortgage is paid off. SS and pension come in, regular.
Mon Jan 13, 2020, 08:04 AM
Jan 2020

There is money left at the end of the month.

Canoe52

(2,963 posts)
14. Not a downer, feel free to share, our emotional health is as important as
Mon Jan 13, 2020, 01:25 PM
Jan 2020

and linked to our physical health.
My grandfather was diagnosed with depression in his later years, the family laughed it off as a big joke so he never got help, he suffered needlessly his last decade. Closing in on 70 myself, so something I need to watch.
All the best to you.

greymattermom

(5,797 posts)
6. My job was stimulating but also stressful. Now that I'm retired and in my 70s,
Mon Jan 13, 2020, 07:42 AM
Jan 2020

I finally lost a lot of weight, and I feel like I'm years younger because of the way my body moves now. I bought a house and moved to a new city, near one of my daughters. The most negative thing was that my husband has major depression and now lives in assisted living in another city, near our son. Nothing I did helped him at all.

PoindexterOglethorpe

(26,842 posts)
17. I am so sorry about your husband.
Sat Jan 18, 2020, 06:33 AM
Jan 2020

I hope that his situation, living in assisted living in another city and near your son, is good.

I sincerely hope that your life, going forward, is good.

cyclonefence

(4,893 posts)
8. I am 72
Mon Jan 13, 2020, 08:45 AM
Jan 2020

and my husband (also 72) were shocked by how suddenly and sharply our long-term memory declined and in some cases disappeared. Most of the time, I know the word I want. I can *see* what I'm thinking of, especially when a name is involved, but I can't recall the word or name. If I consciously stop trying to remember, after a while it will come to me.

I can't emphasize enough how sudden and dramatic this was. I'm a lazy do-nothing, but my husband works out hard, with a trainer, three times a week, and he's as bad as I am, so I'm not sure exercise helps.

Another thing, something exercise *would* help I guess, is that my upper body strength has gone all to hell. I have a lot of trouble with finger strength--pulling paper labels off and so on.

About a year ago I was enjoying getting old and said I felt like I was 50. No longer.

Watch out. It happens overnight.

PoindexterOglethorpe

(26,842 posts)
18. I'm genuinely distressed that for both of you
Sat Jan 18, 2020, 06:45 AM
Jan 2020

that your long-term memory has declined. I'm a year younger, 71, and so far I have not experienced any such declines.

I do know that a lot of cognitive declines can be gradual or subtle. I have a good friend, a man who is turning 80 in May, and who is planning a trip to Hawaii for his birthday, Hooray for him! who does have (to me) noticeable memory lapses. In his case they are short term memory things, as in I'll be telling him something and he'll get a bit confused, question me about what I've just said, and then seem to be okay. I do concentrate on not being impatient with him. After all, I might be the same way in similar situations and not recognize it. But honestly, in the time I've known him, I do think I'm seeing a decline in his cognitive function.

Which does make me give a lot of thought as to how I might want to make sure I'm taken care of when my cognitive function declines too much. And how would I (or those around me) know?

My friend is a single (gay) man. He has friends. He has a sister in our city. He recently made a new will, and I know that because I was a witness to the signing of it.

His situation has made me think a LOT about end of life issues. Those issues are difficult. They're problematical. All I can say is please think about them. And do what seems necessary and appropriate.

Freedomofspeech

(4,388 posts)
9. I will be 72 in June...
Mon Jan 13, 2020, 09:21 AM
Jan 2020

I am more selective about who I spend my time with...have jettisoned all the trumpers. I had a wonderful job as a high School librarian and I have been retired for 15 years. We have always had a very active social life but now I find I love being at home more than anything. Both of our sons live out of state...one in Maine and one in Ohio, so we travel often to visit them. I have been selling or giving away as much of my "stuff" as possible...I find all that stuff a burden and I do not want the kids to deal with it. If it weren't for all the trump bullshit, I would say this is a good time in my life. In fact, I am truly embracing it today. I have a 4 hour appointment today with one of my students who is a hairdresser and I am going grey!! Sick of coloring my hair! It will be a change but I am ready to own the 70s!! Happy soon birthday and enjoy!

Polly Hennessey

(7,528 posts)
10. I thought you meant in an
Mon Jan 13, 2020, 09:45 AM
Jan 2020

historical sense. The history we have lived through is amazing. Personally, it is freeing. Each day is a gift and I marvel at my beautiful world here in Northern California. I traveled the world for my work when younger, now I am happiest with my dogs and my home. Just as planned in my older years, my world has become smaller. Content.

lillypaddle

(9,605 posts)
11. I don't think you can separate the physical
Mon Jan 13, 2020, 10:08 AM
Jan 2020

from the emotional and mental. How I am doing physically is directly tied to my overall well being.

Things that started in my 60s have progressed into my 70s - I'm 72. Without going into a litany of ailments and physical limitations, I'll just say that aging is not for the faint of heart.

marble falls

(62,520 posts)
12. Its not but it certainly beats the only possible alternative!
Mon Jan 13, 2020, 10:20 AM
Jan 2020

Getting older is sooo much better than I thought it was going to be!

Ailments and all.

PoindexterOglethorpe

(26,842 posts)
16. Meh. Not much.
Sat Jan 18, 2020, 06:30 AM
Jan 2020

I can certainly tell I'm not as young as I used to be, but I don't feel at all different from 20 or even 30 years ago.

I'm 71. I'm the healthiest person I know at my age. I don't take any medications. I have almost no limitations on what I can do, compared to a decade or two ago.

It's possible that not having grandchildren (I have one grown son who is highly unlikely to give me grandchildren) makes a difference. It's hard to be sure. Because I have friends and a sister with grandchildren, and through them realize the genuine joy involved; nonetheless I think that no grandchildren has helped keep me young. I will hasten to point out that I was 34 years old when I had my first child. Not terribly old, but certainly not young. And as I went through the years of being a parent (mom, in case that matters) I came to think that being a slightly older parent did keep me somewhat young.

But back to your question. I relocated from Overland Park KS to Santa Fe NM 11 years ago, right before I turned 60. I made the move because of a divorce. The relocation was the best possible thing for me. I can say that Santa Fe is a wonderful place for an older woman to re-invent herself. I have no idea what it's like for a man, but I hope it would be as good. I will say that I wouldn't want to be a young person here, as they roll up the sidewalks at 9pm. I had the good fortune to have my dissipated youth in the Washington DC area. After the Pill, and before AIDS, if that matters.

My personal story aside, I think that what truly matters the most is your personal health. If you are very healthy, there won't be a lot of difference between you 60s and your 70s. If you're experiencing health problems, there will be a difference. But no matter what, your personal attitude matters. If you're confident and optimistic, you'll do well. If you're defeatist and pessimistic, not so well.

trof

(54,273 posts)
19. For me it was 75. I'm 78 now.
Wed Feb 5, 2020, 06:59 PM
Feb 2020

Things started to head south for me at 75, but that's just me.
Eyes, joints, teeth, gut.

demigoddess

(6,675 posts)
20. i'm nearly 72 and I am still changing diapers etc on my handicapped
Tue Feb 18, 2020, 10:46 PM
Feb 2020

child. Two of my kids said they would take care of handicapped sibling. One year they were very gung ho on the subject but now have said 'no, we ain't doing that'. So I have lost my pride in them. And now I worry about how my handicapped child will spend the rest of life. That is the toughest part of growing old.

Ps. no problem with money. There is plenty of that and health care. Just need someone to oversee others doing the actual diaper changing and writing the checks.

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