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Related: About this forumHow Dr. T. Berry Brazelton Shaped Pediatrics
'With Dr. T. Berry Brazeltons death this week, a little shy of his 100th birthday, obituaries have commented on his prominence as Americas pediatrician, on his many honors, which include recognition for his work with diverse populations around the world, and on his extraordinary ability to connect with infants and also with their parents.
He was also beloved by pediatricians, and an extraordinary number of us were taught and shaped by a man who believed deeply that it all came back to looking at the baby and the parents.
Were very good at identifying everything thats wrong with anybody, but we dont have any idea about whats going on in them or whats right about them, Dr. Brazelton said in 1997 in a long retrospective interview for an oral history project at the American Academy of Pediatrics. That led him to start looking carefully at newborns, before parents had had any influence, and what he saw, looking at the babies, was how their behavior actually shaped parental responses.
And that in turn offered opportunities to help parents, who traditionally were blamed when something went wrong. As soon as you share the baby with the parent, you can show them the good things first, and then go to the things that theyve got to work on, he said. . .
From his initial work observing the behavior of newborns, and their interactions with their parents, Dr. Sparrow said, Dr. Brazelton demonstrated that newborn behavior is purposeful and meaningful. That was the foundation of his work, and also influenced much research on brain development and on the importance of the early years of life for lifelong development and health. . .
It was a revolutionary idea, Dr. Lester said, that the baby actually contributes to shaping his or her own environment, that development is not based on passive exposure. Instead, he said, Dr. Brazeltons work helped doctors and psychologists understand that theres a built in reciprocity; infant behavior is modified by the mother, mothers behavior is modified by the infant in a mutually reciprocal relationship.'>>>
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/03/15/well/family/how-dr-t-berry-brazelton-shaped-pediatrics.html?
Arkansas Granny
(31,869 posts)something like this: If mother and child don't come to cross purposes at least once a day, there's something wrong with one or the other, or both.
That has stuck with me for 50+ years and I have passed it along to many other young mothers.
He gave sound, common sense advice.
OregonBlue
(7,947 posts)Best piece of advice I got was "Put good wholesome food in front of them. Leave it there for 20 minutes. If they don't eat, take it away and don't give any more food until the next meal. I have never seen a child voluntarily starve to death in my life."
It worked. He wasn't a good eater til about 4 but he didn't starve to death. He just wasn't all that hungry.
I wasn't stressed any more. What a wonderful, treasure Brazelton was!!
3catwoman3
(25,664 posts)...sense of humor, I say, "Give small servings of healthy foods, and then 'zip your lip.' Dont praise. Don't plead. Don't say anything'."
Dr. B was absolutely right about that.
OregonBlue
(7,947 posts)my life support for the first couple of years. What a guy.
MuseRider
(34,408 posts)Somewhere I have a couple of his books. They are likely worn. I watched his show, didn't it come right after a show by Joan London? I think of him when I see her, if I saw him on a rerun (I have never seen one of those) I would probably recall her too.
Anyway, I owe so much to that man. My husband was uninterested so I was by myself. Dr. Brazelton supported me.
OregonBlue
(7,947 posts)For a while I made it one of my baby shower presents.
MuseRider
(34,408 posts)I wish I had thought about that!