That’s my philosophy. Heck, my MIL gave her kids condoms in the Xmas stockings when my husband and I were dating (18-19yrs old).

Parents should be glad that their adult son is responsible enough to use condoms.

I came home from school at age 20 and my Mom was unpacking my bags and found a bag of weed - this was in 1970. She never said a word but laid it on my bed so I would know she had found it.

as soon as possible.

The usefulness of "my house my rules" went out the window some time back for your child. If you're worried that he doesn't share your values, your actions only make it less likely that he will ever listen to you as a credible source.

All that condoms tell you is that he's thinking about having sex and he's at least willing to protect the two of them from an unwanted pregnancy, STDs, and/or abortion (if that too violates your values). If it's an unopened box... there's at least the possibility that nothing has happened yet and this is the perfect time to have an adult conversation.

Unfortunately... it sounds like he may be the only adult in the room.

..those condoms... ( lets hope they worked!!)

Over half of Americans have had sex by age 18.

Some years back, over winter break, in the middle of the morning the door to my younger son's room opened and out popped son and his girlfriend. We (my husband and I) were quite taken aback but simply decided to offer coffee to them.

A couple of years later I happened to be speaking to the girlfriend, and she told me that my son had promised her he'd checked in with us and we were fine with her spending the night there, and when she came out of the room she could tell we had no idea.

Here's what I want to convey. Your kids will have their own life, which may well include sex. If you don't happen to agree, well too bad. Get over it. And I'm going to guess that most of those who claim to be opposed to premarital sex were themselves sexually active before marriage. What's the word I'm looking for? Oh, yes. Hypocrisy.

Sex before marriage is hardly new. Get over it, and worry a bit more about unplanned pregnancy, especially if you (and I'll invoke hypocrisy here) oppose abortion. Adopt otherwise unwanted children, otherwise STFU.