Deciding to move on doesn’t stop it from hurting.


I’ve been going through something similar. People who I thought were my friends have been using me for my car and for rides. One of them totaled my car last week. They haven’t called and have blocked me from calling them. I’m tired of being too trusting and expecting others to behave like I would. Just because I wouldn’t do something doesn’t mean others won’t do it to me. That’s a hard pill to swallow and I’m just about done with people, in general. Forgetting them and moving on is the right thing to do but it still fricking hurts.

Omg, that's horrible. Can you charge their insurance?

Found out today that he has no license, much less insurance, and I don’t have collision coverage. Thought I had full coverage. It’s okay, though. I’m not going to let anger and bitterness take over, I’m just cutting them all completely out of my life and moving on. Lesson learned.

That’s the key with these things, I think. To not let them live rent free in your head, not let it eat you up inside because they sure as hell aren’t worried about or thinking of us. And to realize (yet again) to be wary of others. Not everyone is a good person. Just because we wouldn’t treat someone that way doesn’t mean others think or act like we would. I hate feeling this way but I’m tired of being too trusting.

It was a rushed lunch up the road.

Last year, I would have been way more hurt. One of them texts me constantly. The female is a nice person. But no obviously theyre not really thinking of me

For myself, it was when I had to leave all my friends and move back home due to a major breakdown. (These 'fiends' only had a basic understanding of what had happened, to be honest here.) I ran up a major phone bill calling them all because I did not want to lose touch with them and I pretty much did not have anyone like them around my home area. After I paid it off, I decided to conduct a little test. I contacted each person one last time and made sure to insinuate that I would be awaiting their call before I would call again. Then, I sat back and waited. I bet you will never guess what happened.

Nothing. Not one of those 'friends' ever called. Not once. It hurt like nothing else. It also taught me a VERY valuable lesson: the word 'friend' is used far too easily. Far too easily. I know better now.

I'm sorry they acted like that. Or didn't act. For the record, the female promised lunch next time she was in town. I didn't push that. She had time to have lunch with the male who texts me constantly. Constantly. He told me the lunch was "rushed" which is bs. We all have our own cars.

Feeling perplexed.

I've been there, more than a few times. Let me add this to your OP, " and when, you called them, and let them know you would be in town. ( after how many months/ years) did you hear this line from them?
" I was just thinking about you! Or, I was just about to call"
X, people like us, are who we are, what we are supposed to be. I'm a giver, I'll give everything to make others happy, there are takers, and there are opportunist people.
It's just people, I'll accept me as a giver, because, it brought LilBit into my life.if i was anything else, i wouldnt have driven 5 hours, 22 years ago, to have a blind date with MrsK.i would have never met LilBit. Ive lost more than a few friends along my years, but I've gained so much more.
Just trust, what you feel, I felt stupid, when I drove 5 hours for a blind date, but , I was just a Giver back then. It worked out. I'm just suggesting, accept our role in this world. After all, this is DU. Most of us here, are prolly, givers.
Take care, breathe.

KozandLilBit

I texted her and let her know my disappointment. Fuck it. I doubt I'll hear back.