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kozar

(2,924 posts) Sat Apr 1, 2023, 08:35 PM Apr 2023

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Hi. I need to post this ,

LilBit and I are home . I posted last Thursday, I’m dying, I calledI911passedout. They came here , but wouldn’t take LilBit. I fought, they took her.

Seems I had a stroke, all you Dur’s , we are home, I’m ok mentally ok, but physically , the stroke hit me. I lost a lot of physical strength it seems.
And my mind is, if I can’t pick her up, I can’t care for herTotally anymore, LilBit needs to be in state care..
we just gonna sleep till.Monday,
Then I gotta do Me, LilBit will be in supported living.

Koz

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Hi. I need to post this , (Original Post) kozar Apr 2023 OP

Oh kozar leftieNanner Apr 2023 #1

We care. Hoping for your peace of mind. lostnfound Apr 2023 #2

Healing vibes to you and LilBit. sheshe2 Apr 2023 #3

So sorry IbogaProject Apr 2023 #4

You have to do what you think is best. I do hope LilBit is placed in a "good" supported living LoisB Apr 2023 #5

I'm so sorry. Please work on getting better. sinkingfeeling Apr 2023 #6

I'm so sorry cate94 Apr 2023 #7

I want things to work out well for you and Lilbit. You've done so much for her all these years, Karadeniz Apr 2023 #8

Well, you knew the day would come Warpy Apr 2023 #9

You have been her knight in shining armor always putting her first. It sounds like you taking MLAA Apr 2023 #10

Sending you both hugs and much love happybird Apr 2023 #11

I'm so very sorry, Koz Hekate Apr 2023 #12

Its gotta hurt, knowing you did your best and it still doesn't work out the way you wanted. 3Hotdogs Apr 2023 #13

So very sorry to hear this, Koz! summer_in_TX Apr 2023 #14

Holding you and LilBit in my heart, Koz. Keep hope alive. n/t TygrBright Apr 2023 #15

Sending you love and hugs. iluvtennis Apr 2023 #16

I'm so sorry KT2000 Apr 2023 #17

If you had a stroke at the end of last week, you're going to need follow-up care. BlackSkimmer Apr 2023 #18

You have endured so many burdens. Nanuke Apr 2023 #19

You're both in our thoughts. CaptainTruth Apr 2023 #20

I hope you can find help for both you and her. OldBaldy1701E Apr 2023 #21

leftieNanner

(15,744 posts)

1. Oh kozar

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 08:49 PM

Apr 2023

My heart is full of love for you and Lil Bit.

❤️

lostnfound

(16,716 posts)

2. We care. Hoping for your peace of mind.

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 08:50 PM

Apr 2023

Just wanted to let you know we hear your pain and hope it gets better.

Today I sat by a pond and a breeze was blowing.
I told my companion, if you only had just ten minutes of life, in an empty universe, and this breeze blowing on the pond was the only thing in the universe you could see for that ten minutes, it would still be such indescribable beauty.

I hope you find some lovely breezes blowing, and a woodpecker in a tree, and a new flower that catches your fancy.

sheshe2

(88,152 posts)

3. Healing vibes to you and LilBit.

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 08:50 PM

Apr 2023

IbogaProject

(3,784 posts)

4. So sorry

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 09:12 PM

Apr 2023

Whew that post seemed out of character for you. Try to get some rehabilitation to see what you can recover and to restore what movement you can.

LoisB

(9,025 posts)

5. You have to do what you think is best. I do hope LilBit is placed in a "good" supported living

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 09:13 PM

Apr 2023

environment.

sinkingfeeling

(53,257 posts)

6. I'm so sorry. Please work on getting better.

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 09:21 PM

Apr 2023

cate94

(2,900 posts)

7. I'm so sorry

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 09:22 PM

Apr 2023

Sending love and hugs.

Karadeniz

(23,546 posts)

8. I want things to work out well for you and Lilbit. You've done so much for her all these years,

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 09:26 PM

Apr 2023

really heroic. Will she be placed where you can visit?

Warpy

(113,131 posts)

9. Well, you knew the day would come

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 09:37 PM

Apr 2023

but I'm sure you were hoping it wouldn't come this soon.

She might blossom in supported living, you never know. I've seen it happen, even when they want to go home because it's home. It takes a while for a new living situation to become any sort of home. It's actually better to do it while you can help her settle in instead of waiting until your own situation is in crisis and you can't.

These are early days after a small stroke. You will regain a lot of strength, but you'll likely get weaker as you get tired, something that will happen sooner than it used to.

Take care.

MLAA

(18,676 posts)

10. You have been her knight in shining armor always putting her first. It sounds like you taking

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 09:42 PM

Apr 2023

her to supported living is another example of you putting her welfare first. Sending hugs and healing thoughts for you both

happybird

(5,192 posts)

11. Sending you both hugs and much love

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 09:52 PM

Apr 2023

Take care of yourself. You are worth it.

Hekate

(95,291 posts)

12. I'm so very sorry, Koz

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 10:03 PM

Apr 2023

Sending love and a prayer your way,

3Hotdogs

(13,566 posts)

13. Its gotta hurt, knowing you did your best and it still doesn't work out the way you wanted.

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 10:35 PM

Apr 2023

Now, take care of yourself.

3H

summer_in_TX

(3,294 posts)

14. So very sorry to hear this, Koz!

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 10:35 PM

Apr 2023

Hugs and prayers for both you and LilBit.

TygrBright

(20,987 posts)

15. Holding you and LilBit in my heart, Koz. Keep hope alive. n/t

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 10:43 PM

Apr 2023

iluvtennis

(20,948 posts)

16. Sending you love and hugs.

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 11:18 PM

Apr 2023

KT2000

(20,951 posts)

17. I'm so sorry

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sat Apr 1, 2023, 11:31 PM

Apr 2023

about this. Life can change in an instant. Best to you both.

BlackSkimmer

(51,308 posts)

18. If you had a stroke at the end of last week, you're going to need follow-up care.

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sun Apr 2, 2023, 08:16 AM

Apr 2023

I'm kind of surprised they released you from the hospital.

Please take care of yourself and Tess. Does Tess still have her support dog you posted about a few years back?

Nanuke

(580 posts)

19. You have endured so many burdens.

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sun Apr 2, 2023, 08:50 AM

Apr 2023

You have taken care of others so much. Now, take care of yourself. You can do it.

CaptainTruth

(7,271 posts)

20. You're both in our thoughts.

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sun Apr 2, 2023, 08:54 AM

Apr 2023

Don't ever give up hope, just take it one day at a time, & take care of yourself.

OldBaldy1701E

(6,616 posts)

21. I hope you can find help for both you and her.

Reply to kozar (Original post)

Sun Apr 2, 2023, 05:36 PM

Apr 2023

Please know I am sending whatever vibes that I can to help. And, I promise I won't send any more of my songs!

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