I'm slowly starting to feel better, but I've been living with a lot of household mess -
there just were a lot of things I had to let go. Now I don't know where to start. It doesn't help to find out that when I start, i don't have quite the energy i want to have .
Any suggestions or blogs addressing this issue?
intaglio
(8,170 posts)The despair is also normal.
Are you using Moodscope or a similar facility?
Clearing up; don't think about clearing everything - I never do. Start with something very small, one table top one chair seat, a single shelf, even the sink. Be harsh, throw out everything that is not current. Don't try to sort for recycling, don't say "This might be useful later". Badly soiled items (plates, glasses, cutlery) get thrown except for the 2 or 3 bits you need.
Once you have done your target, take that bit of garbage out. Sit down with a cup of coffee and relax. Control breathing and mood. You might feel very tired but avoid sleeping or vegetating outside your set resting hours for as long as possible. Recover, reward yourself. If you can then start another limited clean up - but that is an extra.
Don't try to do everything. The object is to start a small project and get that done. As your recovery progresses then the projects can become bigger if you want. If someone offers to help, accept; but make it clear that you are doing one thing at a time and the helper is not to try to take over. You are the one succeeding - not your assistant.
Good luck,
hedgehog
(36,286 posts)thank you, it helps me as well !
Nay
(12,051 posts)forums are full of nice people. Look at how they have modified the basic flylady system to their own needs and see if something fits your situation. Good luck, and I'm glad you are getting better!
kickysnana
(3,908 posts)The person giving the class had been trained and was well perpared but those of us who deal with the days chewing is hard work had some tips that helped.
1. Use a cart of some kind, don't carry. My Aunt used a desk chair with wheels rather than buy something. Eventually I had two one a good size grocery cart I use for laundry, trash and recycling to the dumpster, normal shopping. I bought a folding luggage cart, I have seen them at the thrift stores too, for moving boxes (My lifting storage limit is banker boxes), taking broken down boxes for recycling.
2. When putting things away in other rooms from one room do not make multiple trips. Gather it first and then make one trip. When working on a room bring everything you need with you before you start ie trash bag, dust cloth or other cleaning cloths, cleaners, if you don't have a caddy reuse a plastic grocery bag.
3. Rest when you need to you will get more done. There are times when I worked 15 min on and 30 min off or only worked during TV commercials.
4. If you have health insurance of some kind you may be eligible for homemaking help until you are stronger. Your doctor orders it. Or use it to ask younger members of your family for a little help. My nieces were a great help when my Aunt who lives with me first suffered her stroke. We got to know each other a little better after they had disappeared into their peer groups as teenagers.
5. Look into doing some shopping online if you don't already. There is a grocery store here that offers online shopping and free delivery the last week of the month and often good sales that week. Places like Walgreens, Amazon and Drugstore.com have free shipping over $25.(I admit I have lost rack of who I am not supposed to buy from. Not working almost always reduces your income.).
6. Some communities have chore services where young people get paid minimum wage for chores. A healthy 14 year old can work circles around you. When my kids were young I expected them to volunteer to help elderly, pregnant or disabled temporarily or chronic. Originally I told them not to accept any money but after a while some of my neighbors told me that felt better if they gave my kids a nominal sum, a tip so we adjusted but they still did not help expecting to be paid nor did they discuss what others were doing if asked.
7. Use technology. Microfiber does a better faster job of dusting and can be thrown in the washer. When you are able to vacuum and mop don't try to do the whole house all of it at once. My Aunt and I both make use of a "grabber" stick to reach rather than climb. She only has the use of one arm and is in a wheel chair so she uses it to make her bed and sort her laundry, things she wants to continue to do herself. Squeegees are quicker and easier to use than cloths for windows. We put a lot of things like sturdy knickknacks in our little dishwasher rather than by hand. Before the dishwasher I used to let the dishes air dry rather than wiping them. I have a spray bottle with a very weak bleach solution that I spray on kitchen surfaces and then load the dishwasher before I wipe the surfaces. I don't have to scrub. For floor spots I use a rag and my foot.
8. If you are taking Tylenol or other pain medicine take it before you start working. Pain can weaken you and stiffen you up leading to more muscle strain and more pain.
PS. Our laundry room is quite a hike so I do not come back to the apartment until I have the loads dried. When I did laundry at my Mom's I used to sit in her basement rec room rather than climb the stairs many times during the cycles.
There is a hanging frame on wheels and I hang things up in the laundry room right out of the dryer and use that to pull the clothes back and hang them up in the closets saving the number of times I handle them along with pushing the grocery cart with folded sheets and towels, and unfolded underwear and wash cloths.
That is all I can think of right now. Hope there is something in there that could help you and glad you are recovering.
hedgehog
(36,286 posts)The pain killer is good advice - I get used to tolerating a low level, without realizing that that toleration is sapping my strength for other things!
KC
(1,995 posts)great tips here, ones that I sure need to use !
Warpy
(113,131 posts)This site suggests setting a timer for 20 minutes. Almost all of us can do this crap for 20 minutes. I can do this for 20 minutes if I have my TENS unit cranked up.
The problems are flares and hot weather. Both of them flatten me.
hedgehog
(36,286 posts)hedgehog
(36,286 posts)then I realized i went to bed last night feeling proud of all i got done yesterday! One day at a time I guess!