alcohol is causing serious issues in his life and he keeps drinking that is the definition of an alcoholic.

I am so sorry. Call that AA affiliated group for the families of alcoholics. Maybe one of them can drive you to the exam.

Call an abuse hotline.

And keep in touch at DU.

Don't be alone on this tough journey.

((((Hugs))))

If i mention anything about his opioid or now alcohol abuse he goes nuts

Please remember that. You are loved and we wish the best for you.

He just got up to ssk me what I'm watching on tv

I never have understood what I call the bed wetting mama's boy drunk. Anyone that thinks a few drinks is a reason to go on a bad trip and cause trouble. I've been that way especially since I was a trustee at our Eagles lodge about 20 years ago. There was no end to the problems with drunks in the lounge. Grown assed men that couldn't handle it.

I got the idea that whenever someone had to be booted for a 30- or 90-day suspension, if something like that could be reported and have the guy's alcohol license yanked too, they might learn something. Sure, they could get someone to buy for them but maybe that would help improve their behavior. They wouldn't want to be too mean to the person they need to give them their baba.

Hed just find some way. He's an addict. He got cut off his opioids playing little games. They finally cut him loose.

Now its booze instead. Oh and he stuffs himself with food. He'll eat a jumbo bag of chips overnight

I've been there. One day at a time. You'll make it. I'm 40 years past it and it still affects me but not like being in it.

He's 72 and killing himself and I'm after trying for decades which i shouldn't have, done. I'm just trying to get through this . I'm supposedly on his pension for ten yrs. Now he's limping around looking for good and I'm ignoring him

I apologized. Its horrible to hrar an abused person upset you with their domestic situation.

I'm staring down months of already paid dental work. I'm pretty. Much stuck. No one wants to hear this anymore.

Maybe Alanon could help. Sometimes talking with people who have a similar situation can help. If nothing else it can get you out of the house for a while.

I went to two meetings and after listening to everyone's heartbreak and stories, I left my (newly discovered) addict. But the meetings were obviously so helpful to the members. They had great advice and were obviously wonderful support to each other.