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debm55

(55,728 posts)
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 10:28 AM Dec 13

Fill in the blank, It's not Christmas without__________________________. Mine is a Christmas tree. what is yours?

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Fill in the blank, It's not Christmas without__________________________. Mine is a Christmas tree. what is yours? (Original Post) debm55 Dec 13 OP
snow--for x country sking and a campfire riversedge Dec 13 #1
Thank you very much. riversedge. In my younger day we lived across the stree from a golf coarse and go X country skiing debm55 Dec 13 #3
Oplatek...a Polish tradition. LuckyCharms Dec 13 #2
Thank you very much, LuckyCharms. I remember them. They tasted like the host at communion. Thank you for a beautiful debm55 Dec 13 #5
Yes, it was like taking communion, and the whole process LuckyCharms Dec 13 #8
Thank you , LuckyCharms. debm55 Dec 13 #14
We did that as kids... MiHale Dec 13 #18
A Christmas tree 🎄 .... anciano Dec 13 #4
Thank you very much, anciano. Yes, the Christmas tree and hot cocoa. debm55 Dec 13 #7
Music! oberle Dec 13 #6
That was going to be my answer Sanity Claws Dec 13 #11
Thank you very much oberle. I sang in the children's Mass at Chrismas Eve. Loved it.Thank you very much for sharing a debm55 Dec 13 #20
Music, some of it very good; a lot of it really, really bad. Ocelot II Dec 13 #9
Thank you very much for sharing with us. I did't know you are in three choirs. You must have a beautiful voice. debm55 Dec 13 #21
Eggnog we can do it Dec 13 #10
My husband loves eggnog too. He only gets it Christmas. That you for sharing , we can do it. debm55 Dec 13 #22
A nice solo walk BOSSHOG Dec 13 #12
Thank you, my dear friend BOSSHOG for your beautiful post. May the memories of your mother be a blessing to you debm55 Dec 13 #23
This is what Christmas is all about Grim Chieftain Dec 13 #71
Thank You My Friend BOSSHOG Dec 13 #72
Family. pandr32 Dec 13 #13
New Christmas pj in Christmas designs or colors. debm55 Dec 13 #15
Thank you for sharing pandr32. My Christmas wish for you it that they do. debm55 Dec 13 #24
Yes. I will have two out of three this year! pandr32 Dec 13 #33
Great. debm55 Dec 13 #53
Pound cake. Mom mom used to make it. Then me. Then my Dad. applegrove Dec 13 #16
Thank you very much for that holiday tradition, applegrove. It sounds wonderful. debm55 Dec 13 #27
___Chinese Food___ discntnt_irny_srcsm Dec 13 #17
Thank you very much, discntnt_irny_srcsm. for sharing with us. debm55 Dec 13 #28
My dear sweet wife.... MiHale Dec 13 #19
Thank you very much, MiHale. Now go give Mrs. MiHale a hug and a kiss for all that she has done and is doing. debm55 Dec 13 #30
Done and done again... MiHale Dec 13 #31
Anxiety. Bobstandard Dec 13 #25
Thank you my dear friend BobStandard for sharing. I suffer for depression and anxiety. Take meds for it. Came from a debm55 Dec 13 #32
Hugs to you dear Deb. Grim Chieftain Dec 13 #63
Thank you Grim Chieftain. Love, debbie. debm55 Dec 13 #66
Homemade cinnamon bread. mwmisses4289 Dec 13 #26
Sounds wonderful, mwmisses4289 Love the smell of homemade cinnamon bread. debm55 Dec 13 #54
Attending Christmas Eve church service with my family... Mark.b2 Dec 13 #29
Thank you very much, Mark.b2.Love Christmas Eve services Enjoy your soup with your family gathered around you. debm55 Dec 13 #55
CBC The Shepherd Maninacan Dec 13 #34
thank you very much for sharing with us, Maninacan. debm55 Dec 13 #57
Music Cirsium Dec 13 #35
Absolutely beautiful. Thank you very much, Cirsium. I listened to the whole Messiah and loved it. debm55 Dec 13 #47
Lots of emails from our family on how to manage gift giving among the cousins, the aunts, and the uncles. NNadir Dec 13 #36
Well, NNadir, You need to give Mrs.NNadir a big hug and kiss for all the work she does. debm55 Dec 13 #45
Believe me, I definitely appreciate her. After 40 years, she's less inclined for hugs and kisses than she used to be. NNadir Dec 13 #46
You are a very lucky man and Mrs.NNadir is a very lucky woman. My husband and myself have been married since 1978. This debm55 Dec 13 #51
Well, with the hard life of your youth having given away to such warmth as we see here, we all must concede that Rich... NNadir Dec 13 #65
Thank you very much, NNadir. for your wonderful post. debm55 Dec 13 #68
Spritz cookies. I make hundreds of them... 3catwoman3 Dec 13 #37
Thank you very much for sharing about the Spritz cookies. 3catwoman3. I bet the smell is wonderful. What a wonderful debm55 Dec 13 #40
The Song Says justaprogressive Dec 13 #38
Thank you very much for sharing . That is sweet of you justaprogressive.. debm55 Dec 13 #39
Midnight Mass Chipper Chat Dec 13 #41
Agree, always beautiful. debm55 Dec 13 #44
Happy children. LoisB Dec 13 #42
Thank you very much, LoisB debm55 Dec 13 #43
It's not Christmas without the rituals and ceremonial origins of pagan traditions Niagara Dec 13 #48
Nice rundown, Niagara. Very interesting. LuckyCharms Dec 13 #49
I find all interesting as well, Lucky Niagara Dec 13 #56
Thank you very much for sharing with us, Niagara. Some of them I was aware of , others not. Santa himself was a Nordic debm55 Dec 13 #50
Absolutely, Debbie Niagara Dec 13 #58
I know. OldBaldy1701E Dec 13 #69
I am so sorry OldBaldy1701E. debm55 Dec 13 #76
deb, I'm pleased to tell you that it's not Christmas True Dough Dec 13 #52
Thank you True Dough. Whatever floats your boat is fine with me. debm55 Dec 13 #60
I don't know about floats my boat True Dough Dec 13 #61
My homemade fruit cake, gingerbread cookies, Phoenix61 Dec 13 #59
Thank you very much, Phoenix61 for sharing you Christmas spirit with us. debm55 Dec 13 #62
Christians ZDU Dec 13 #64
Thank you. debm55 Dec 13 #73
some drunk Florida man getting stuck in a chimney nuxvomica Dec 13 #67
Thank you. debm55 Dec 13 #75
A Charlie Brown Christmas - Vince Guaraldi Trio. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Dec 13 #70
I agree, Thank you very much OldBaldy1701E. Love the program and the music. debm55 Dec 13 #74
Yes! buzzycrumbhunger Dec 13 #80
My two favorites! electric_blue68 Dec 16 #93
Spending time with my sons and their families wendyb-NC Dec 13 #77
Thank you very much, wendyb-NC. debm55 Dec 14 #84
Bad Hallmark movies The Madcap Dec 13 #78
HAHAHAHAHHA, Thank you very much The Madcap. so true. debm55 Dec 14 #85
Even with the mediocre writing and wooden acting, I stick with them for the inevitable "happy ending". retread Dec 15 #89
I used to answer this with Ilsa Dec 13 #79
Thank you very much my dear llsa debm55 Dec 14 #86
Caroling. madamesilverspurs Dec 14 #81
Thank you my dear madamesilverspurs. debm55 Dec 14 #87
3...2.. underpants Dec 14 #82
Thank you , underpants. debm55 Dec 14 #83
Baking. Lots of baking yellowdogintexas Dec 15 #88
Thank you very much, yellowdogintexas. Enjoy your baked goods and the good work you do with them debm55 Dec 15 #92
... catbyte Dec 15 #90
HAHAHAHAHAHAH. Thank you catbyte. debm55 Dec 15 #91
Sparkly, glittery, colorful Xmas decorations, lights, and family!... electric_blue68 Dec 16 #94
Thank you very much for sharing with us, electric_blue68 debm55 Dec 16 #95

debm55

(55,728 posts)
3. Thank you very much. riversedge. In my younger day we lived across the stree from a golf coarse and go X country skiing
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 10:40 AM
Dec 13

there .

LuckyCharms

(21,785 posts)
2. Oplatek...a Polish tradition.
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 10:38 AM
Dec 13

My spouse is Polish, and when we congregated with her family at Christmas, you would take the Oplatek wafer, hold it out to the person sitting next to you, and they would break off a piece, eat it, and then you would say something complimentary and well-wishing to them. The wafer would then be passed around the table, where the process would repeat.

https://folklife.si.edu/magazine/foodways-holidays-polish-oplatek

debm55

(55,728 posts)
5. Thank you very much, LuckyCharms. I remember them. They tasted like the host at communion. Thank you for a beautiful
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 10:43 AM
Dec 13

tradition that makes Christmas special for you and yours.

LuckyCharms

(21,785 posts)
8. Yes, it was like taking communion, and the whole process
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 10:45 AM
Dec 13

would usually become emotional, depending on what happened during the year, and the people who were suddenly no longer with us that Christmas.

MiHale

(12,626 posts)
18. We did that as kids...
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 11:01 AM
Dec 13

Turned into a competition trying to break off a bigger piece of theirs than the piece they broke off yours. Mom and Dad would get so mad at us. Good times.

oberle

(272 posts)
6. Music!
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 10:44 AM
Dec 13

As an organist, I have worked every Christmas Eve since I was 14. This year the choir I direct is doing a Lessons and Carols on Dec. 21. I have loved every moment of preparation. That and the music for Christmas Eve is what I look forward to every year.

debm55

(55,728 posts)
20. Thank you very much oberle. I sang in the children's Mass at Chrismas Eve. Loved it.Thank you very much for sharing a
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 11:08 AM
Dec 13

Beautiful Christmas tradition with us.

Ocelot II

(129,076 posts)
9. Music, some of it very good; a lot of it really, really bad.
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 10:47 AM
Dec 13

I'm a member of three choirs and the concerts are piling up. When Christmas is finally over I'm just glad not to be hearing horrible arrangements of The Little Drummer Boy at the grocery store.

debm55

(55,728 posts)
21. Thank you very much for sharing with us. I did't know you are in three choirs. You must have a beautiful voice.
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 11:11 AM
Dec 13

debm55

(55,728 posts)
22. My husband loves eggnog too. He only gets it Christmas. That you for sharing , we can do it.
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 11:12 AM
Dec 13

BOSSHOG

(44,738 posts)
12. A nice solo walk
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 10:49 AM
Dec 13

And chat with My Mom who died in 1966. We get caught up on family and happenings. I’m pretty sure it’s good for her. I know it’s a wonderful short time for me. It’s the only Christmas Present I give myself and every year it’s the best.

debm55

(55,728 posts)
23. Thank you, my dear friend BOSSHOG for your beautiful post. May the memories of your mother be a blessing to you
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 11:14 AM
Dec 13

BOSSHOG

(44,738 posts)
72. Thank You My Friend
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 08:54 PM
Dec 13

Mom and I did not have a lot of time together but we got the best out of every minute.

MiHale

(12,626 posts)
19. My dear sweet wife....
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 11:05 AM
Dec 13

Going insane trying to balance the gifts to the kids…same size…same overall price…same amount of gifts…
Thought it ended when the kids got older but it continues to this day because of grandkids.

debm55

(55,728 posts)
30. Thank you very much, MiHale. Now go give Mrs. MiHale a hug and a kiss for all that she has done and is doing.
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 11:37 AM
Dec 13

debm55

(55,728 posts)
32. Thank you my dear friend BobStandard for sharing. I suffer for depression and anxiety. Take meds for it. Came from a
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 11:43 AM
Dec 13

terribly abusive home. Sexual abused by grandmother. Mother told me last week that she never loved me, I take all kinds of meds to calm my nerves. You my friend are loved, You my friend are strong..

mwmisses4289

(3,232 posts)
26. Homemade cinnamon bread.
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 11:24 AM
Dec 13

I would add eggnog and homemade rum balls, but due to allergies and other issues, I can no longer have either.

Mark.b2

(718 posts)
29. Attending Christmas Eve church service with my family...
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 11:30 AM
Dec 13

and my wife’s Minnesota wild rice soup for dinner afterward!

debm55

(55,728 posts)
55. Thank you very much, Mark.b2.Love Christmas Eve services Enjoy your soup with your family gathered around you.
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 03:37 PM
Dec 13

Maninacan

(215 posts)
34. CBC The Shepherd
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 12:02 PM
Dec 13

listening to Al Maitland read The Shepherd by Frederic Forsyth Christmas Eve on CBC. It is schedule at 6:30pm this year.

debm55

(55,728 posts)
47. Absolutely beautiful. Thank you very much, Cirsium. I listened to the whole Messiah and loved it.
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 01:48 PM
Dec 13

NNadir

(37,299 posts)
36. Lots of emails from our family on how to manage gift giving among the cousins, the aunts, and the uncles.
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 12:10 PM
Dec 13

It actually gets confusing with all the changes and opinions, but I think my wife has it figured out.

(My wife is the organizer of gift buying and delivery.)

debm55

(55,728 posts)
45. Well, NNadir, You need to give Mrs.NNadir a big hug and kiss for all the work she does.
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 01:13 PM
Dec 13

NNadir

(37,299 posts)
46. Believe me, I definitely appreciate her. After 40 years, she's less inclined for hugs and kisses than she used to be.
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 01:22 PM
Dec 13

This said, as old folks, and empty nesters, we do have our time together, intimate and otherwise.

I go to bed at night thinking of our years together, and wake up in the morning thinking of our years together, lately more than ever, perhaps because of the 40 year milestone.

How lucky I've been to have her is always on my mind.

I've lived a life full of love, and thus can die happy.

debm55

(55,728 posts)
51. You are a very lucky man and Mrs.NNadir is a very lucky woman. My husband and myself have been married since 1978. This
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 03:25 PM
Dec 13

June will be our 48th wedding anniversary. We can't think of anyone we would rather be with.

NNadir

(37,299 posts)
65. Well, with the hard life of your youth having given away to such warmth as we see here, we all must concede that Rich...
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 04:14 PM
Dec 13

...must be a wonderful man, to bring you such peace, and warmth. Many of us, I'm sure, love your wonderful and fun threads in the lounge, this one included.

As for your 48 years, on which I congratulate you:

There is nothing, absolutely nothing, as wonderful as a strong marriage.

That's what I think, anyway, having lived in one.

It doesn't come to everyone, and I know how lucky we are to be in ours.

3catwoman3

(28,583 posts)
37. Spritz cookies. I make hundreds of them...
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 12:12 PM
Dec 13

...in a variety of shapes, and decorated with different colors of sugar crystals and sprinkles. I have at least a dozen different colors.

The recipe is very simple - butter, sugar, eggs, a bit of salt, and vanilla. I use a salad shooter, which pops them out really fast with minimal effort, and because they're small, a large cookie sheet can hold 2 dozen. I prefer them slightly underbaked.

Before getting the salad shooter, I had a hand-cranked cookie press. By the time I'd be done with pans and pans of cookies, my right wrist would be really sore.

Spritz cookies remind me of my maternal grandmother. She would always bake them in the summer, when the extended family would get together in my mother's small hometown in Minnesota. My mom was the oldest of 4 - 3 girls, then a boy. None of my grandparents 4 kids stayed in the hometown. My uncle, the youngest of the 4, and only one still living, ended up in the Minneapolis-St. Paul area. My family, after several moves, settled in Rochester NY. The second daughter married an Army officer and they were all over the place until retiring in Virginia. The third sister lived in Wisconsin for many years, and then my uncle got a job in the Wash DC area, and they moved to Chevy Chase.

So, we saw each other usually only once a year, in Minnesota. There were always Spritz cookies, in a large glass apothecary jar that had been in my grandfather's dental office. My grandmother frosted the cookies, as well as sprinkled them, and they were very pretty. I'm not ambitious enough to frost mine - too much work.

I was the cousin fortunate enough to inherit the apothecary jar, and it is one of my most treasured possessions.

debm55

(55,728 posts)
40. Thank you very much for sharing about the Spritz cookies. 3catwoman3. I bet the smell is wonderful. What a wonderful
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 12:22 PM
Dec 13

post you have shared with us and the history behind it.

Niagara

(11,525 posts)
48. It's not Christmas without the rituals and ceremonial origins of pagan traditions
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 02:16 PM
Dec 13

Evergreen Decorating: Pagans used fir trees, holly, ivy, and mistletoe to bring greenery indoors, symbolizing life and fertility during winter.

Christmas Trees: Derived from Germanic/Norse traditions of bringing evergreen trees inside as a good omen, decorated with fruit or candles.

Yule Log: Burning a large log (or its modern decorative form) was a Scandinavian ritual to welcome the returning sun and bring good fortune.

Feasting & Gifts: Roman Saturnalia, a mid-December festival for the god Saturn, featured feasting, merriment, and gift exchanges.

Mistletoe: Sacred to Druids, it symbolized peace and fertility, leading to the kissing tradition.

Holly & Wreaths: Red berries (holly) and evergreen wreaths were used to ward off evil spirits and celebrate the life-giving sun.

Caroling & Bells: Ancient practices included singing and ringing bells to drive away evil spirits or celebrate the solstice.

Stockings: Related to hanging items out for benevolent spirits or as part of gift-giving customs.


🎄🕯️´◡`🎁🎍

debm55

(55,728 posts)
50. Thank you very much for sharing with us, Niagara. Some of them I was aware of , others not. Santa himself was a Nordic
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 03:18 PM
Dec 13

spirit. I always wondered about the shepherds keeping watch over the lambs. Ewes don't drop their lambs until the spring. So why isnt Christmas celebrated in the Spring?

Niagara

(11,525 posts)
58. Absolutely, Debbie
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 03:46 PM
Dec 13

There's this animated movie (remade in 2000) called The Life and Adventures of Santa Claus and I just adore this movie.

🎅

OldBaldy1701E

(10,188 posts)
69. I know.
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 05:49 PM
Dec 13

We are in an apartment for the first time in thirty years. It will be the first time I will not have a Yule log to burn nor a place to burn it.

It royally sucks.

Phoenix61

(18,702 posts)
59. My homemade fruit cake, gingerbread cookies,
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 03:50 PM
Dec 13

peppermint pinwheel cookies, and cranberry-orange bread. The yard fully decked out and lit up Thanksgiving night. The inside of the house decorated and all my Christmas animated stuffies up and running. I LOVE Christmas!!!!

buzzycrumbhunger

(1,651 posts)
80. Yes!
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 11:22 PM
Dec 13

And I also love the old Christmas Carol with Alastair Sim, as well as Scrooged with Bill Murray.

wendyb-NC

(4,603 posts)
77. Spending time with my sons and their families
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 09:57 PM
Dec 13

Preferably in person, but if they are staying where they live, opposite end of the state, then chatting on the phone.

retread

(3,889 posts)
89. Even with the mediocre writing and wooden acting, I stick with them for the inevitable "happy ending".
Mon Dec 15, 2025, 08:14 AM
Dec 15

Ilsa

(63,832 posts)
79. I used to answer this with
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 10:19 PM
Dec 13

...watching Love Actually." But I don't anymore. Now it just makes me sad.

I love the season's music. My favorite is Night of Silence/Silent Night:

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I usually watch some Atlanta PBS programs with choirs from Spelman and Morehouse HBCUs. I listen to contemporary Christmas music, and a few upbeat Chanukkah songs by the Maccabeats.

madamesilverspurs

(16,464 posts)
81. Caroling.
Sun Dec 14, 2025, 12:45 AM
Dec 14

Lots of caroling. Midnight church service by candlelight. Breakfast of Danish aebleskivers with hot cocoa. Grandmother's presents always wrapped in green tissue paper with red crinkle-tie ribbon and bows.

These days the caroling comes from my vinyl collection, midnight church is streamed live from the cathedral, my sister makes the aebleskivers. But I still wrap gifts in green tissue paper with crinkle-tie ribbon and bows.


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yellowdogintexas

(23,595 posts)
88. Baking. Lots of baking
Mon Dec 15, 2025, 12:28 AM
Dec 15

My mom and I made cakes together every Christmas whenever we could.
I still bake cakes during the holidays.

This has been particularly busy.
Thanksgiving: chocolate pound cake
Auction: chocolate pound cake and rum cake
Purchased at the 2024 Christmas auction: Italian Cream cake x 2 and another as yet unselected
For the Ballot Draw/Christmas party at Democratic Headquarters: Rum cake and possible a second non boozy cake
Family Christmas Dinner: Chocolate pound cake.

Back when we did not have much extra money, I came up with the idea to offer cakes to order at my Sunday School Class Christmas Party. It is a live auction and the bidding stops when there are 6 bidders remaining; they can request a cake when they need it and they get to choose the kind of cake they want. This is still a part of our live auction after 30 years.
The money we raise is given to a number of very worthy entities. I think we raised about $11,,000 this year

debm55

(55,728 posts)
92. Thank you very much, yellowdogintexas. Enjoy your baked goods and the good work you do with them
Mon Dec 15, 2025, 10:05 AM
Dec 15

electric_blue68

(25,924 posts)
94. Sparkly, glittery, colorful Xmas decorations, lights, and family!...
Tue Dec 16, 2025, 12:36 PM
Dec 16

Listening on line to Christmas carols.

And the eminder from buzzycrumbhunger re: Alistair Sim's Chrstmas Carol, and Bill Murray's Scrooge.

ETA
I don't always see my sister on Christmas, we do see each other by New Year's, New Year's week.
Other times we go out to one of our cousins in NJ on Christmas Day, though covid ruined that. We have visted once afterwards in the Summer ?2023. Maaabe 2025, too.

But I often go over each year, and help her decorate! She's got wonderful decorations! A few go back to our childhoods. Others she's bought along the decades. I've made one for her, too.

No table tree this year bc recovering (well!) from knee replacement.
But plenty to put out everywhere else in the livingroom! 🥰 👍

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