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debm55

(39,675 posts)
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 12:56 PM Dec 20

When did you find out there was no physical Santa? He was a spirit of giving, Did you tell your parents? t

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I was in First Grade, She showed me were the gifts were hidden. I ran into my bedroom and cried. . However, I didn;t tell my parents for a couple of years as I thought I wouldn't get anything. When did you find out or realize ?::

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When did you find out there was no physical Santa? He was a spirit of giving, Did you tell your parents? t (Original Post) debm55 Dec 20 OP
I peeked through a hole in our backyard shed that parents had locked... wcmagumba Dec 20 #1
Thank you wcmagumba. I tried to come up with every excuse for why the toys were in the room, Too young not to believe, debm55 Dec 20 #4
my parents arranged for Santa to come to the house NJCher Dec 20 #2
That's funny and thank you for sharing, NJCher debm55 Dec 20 #21
My cousin did the same thing with the ring. wnylib Dec 22 #66
My dad always told me that "we're your Santa Claus" jls4561 Dec 20 #3
Cheers for your dad!! CrispyQ Dec 20 #6
Yes , you are true. Once Santa goes down. Tooth Fairy , Easter bunny go down too. debm55 Dec 20 #8
I don't have kids, but I would never have perpetuated this mean myth. CrispyQ Dec 20 #5
I don't know about telling or not telling. But once you find out it's all over. debm55 Dec 20 #11
I don't actually ever remember believing in Santa CanonRay Dec 20 #7
My chimney was bricked in. I didn't think about that.Sometimes kids need a little make beiieve. though it hurts when you debm55 Dec 20 #12
I always told my kids... ShepKat Dec 20 #9
That is a very heartwarming I bought the whole Santa bit, and it hurt when I found out. debm55 Dec 20 #13
What do you mean? Of course, there's a Santa! sinkingfeeling Dec 20 #10
sinkingfeeling, I do believe in Santa as a spirit of giving. debm55 Dec 20 #14
I was TODAY years old when I found out EYESORE 9001 Dec 20 #15
Yes EYESORE 9001, Which leads me to the question, Should kids ever be told about Santa. I am in the middle of deciding debm55 Dec 20 #16
Is today your birthday. If so Happy Birthday. Eyesore 9001 debm55 Dec 20 #50
Around The Same Age, Deb ProfessorGAC Dec 20 #17
Did you cry? Five is sort of a young age to have your bubble burst. debm55 Dec 20 #18
Not That I Recall ProfessorGAC Dec 20 #24
I cried, debm55 Dec 20 #27
All I remember is my dad asking me Mad_Dem_X Dec 20 #19
Thank you for sharing, Mad_Dem_X debm55 Dec 20 #20
About the same time mwmisses4289 Dec 20 #22
Thank you mwmisses4289, Love that story. debm55 Dec 20 #28
Wait, what? Solly Mack Dec 20 #23
You Mean You Don't Remember... ProfessorGAC Dec 20 #25
Hush now. It still hurts. Solly Mack Dec 20 #26
You never believed in Santa. even for a little while.???? debm55 Dec 20 #29
Once, my older sister and brother, along with my mother rigged a box to fall once we were up the stairs. Solly Mack Dec 20 #33
Thank you Solly Mack debm55 Dec 20 #34
I hid in the back hall closet with the door slightly ajar. no_hypocrisy Dec 20 #30
I knew some pretty nasty kids when I was little and they got presents. So the coal myth I never believed in. debm55 Dec 20 #31
WHAT, THERE'S NO SANTA CLAUSE. . Emile Dec 20 #32
Emile. I believe in the spirit of Chrismas. debm55 Dec 20 #36
I don;t believe in the physical being, but i do the spiritual. debm55 Dec 20 #49
I think my Dad told me Blappy Dec 20 #35
Oh blappy I am sorry, but your post me smile while crying. debm55 Dec 20 #37
I recount this humorously, so no apology needed. I was kinda sad and horrified in some way Blappy Dec 20 #39
I was about 8, and I'm still pissed! WestMichRad Dec 20 #38
I hate to be the one, but, about that Easter Bunny...can we talk? LoisB Dec 20 #41
Do you want me to start another thread, debm55 Dec 20 #42
Don't go bursting my bubble, ya big meany! WestMichRad Dec 20 #55
I don't think I ever believed there is a physical Santa Claus. If I did, it was a time before my LoisB Dec 20 #40
Thank you LoisB. I know I was 5 because we were talking about a metal dollhouse and she told me I got it and showed me debm55 Dec 20 #43
I was 9. My parents told me. I didn't believe them Native Dec 20 #44
Oh sweet Native I am sorry for you, But you could have believed in the Spirit of Santa. I do, and the gift of giving to debm55 Dec 20 #45
When I was in first grade, some kid I never saw before or since crossed the street just to tell me about Santa rsdsharp Dec 20 #46
Thank you very much rsdsharp. I believe in the spirit of Santa and the blessings of Santa to help, give and welcome the debm55 Dec 20 #47
And presents. rsdsharp Dec 20 #48
HAHAHHAHHAH. Thank you. debm55 Dec 20 #51
My mom finally confessed when I asked her for the umpteenth time at age 7. LeftInTX Dec 20 #52
Was either 6 or 7 Picaro Dec 20 #53
I don't remember, but I STILL have a note, written by Dad, responding to my written note: 'Who r you?' elleng Dec 20 #54
Elleng, what a sweet post, May the memories of your parent be blessings to you debm55 Dec 21 #65
I was about 8, found the whole big stash of presents for 7 people. Then I knew. Clouds Passing Dec 20 #56
Thank you. debm55 Dec 20 #57
I was 7 living in Germany and the neighbor girl who was 11 gopiscrap Dec 20 #58
Thank you gopiscrap. I think it is way harder to hear about it from another child. debm55 Dec 21 #63
When I was little, my mother told me Santa was the spirit of Christmas. Dulcinea Dec 21 #59
As I did my son. Thank you Dulcinea. debm55 Dec 21 #62
As one of the roughly 40% of children who soldierant Dec 21 #60
Thank you for your post soldierant. debm55 Dec 21 #61
I never believed sakabatou Dec 21 #64
My parents had a story for why Santa arrived wnylib Dec 22 #67

wcmagumba

(3,294 posts)
1. I peeked through a hole in our backyard shed that parents had locked...
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 01:03 PM
Dec 20

I saw a blue piece of vinyl luggage that I later got from Santa...didn't say anything...I was probably about 8 or so and already had strong doubts...fun while it lasted....

debm55

(39,675 posts)
4. Thank you wcmagumba. I tried to come up with every excuse for why the toys were in the room, Too young not to believe,
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 01:09 PM
Dec 20

But had the facts. That's what PMO about her telling and showing me where they were.

NJCher

(38,414 posts)
2. my parents arranged for Santa to come to the house
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 01:06 PM
Dec 20

With gifts. As Santa was putting them under the tree, I said, "Mom, why does Santa have Eldon's (our neighbor) wedding ring on?"

Details, details.

wnylib

(25,015 posts)
66. My cousin did the same thing with the ring.
Sun Dec 22, 2024, 12:21 AM
Dec 22

My aunt and uncle arranged for my father to show up at their house dressed as Sants for their 3 boys. The oldest knew that Santa was not real. The second one, about 7 years old, suspected but did not know for sure. The youngest was 5 and a true believer.

My mother dropped my father off a few blocks before the house and the rest of us went on to the house in the car. When we arrived, the middle kid asked where Uncle Bill was. It was a Saturday. My mother said that he got called to work overtime.

About 15 minutes later my father showed up at the door with a bag over his shoulder, white hair and beard, red suit. The oldest kid played along well. The youngest was excited. The middle kid looked skeptical. When my father handed him a wrapped present, he said, "How come Santa is wearing Uncle Bill's weddng ring?"

My aunt immediately said, "Santa has a wife, you know." Then she pulled the middle kid into the kitchen and told him not to spoil it for the youngest one.



jls4561

(1,627 posts)
3. My dad always told me that "we're your Santa Claus"
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 01:07 PM
Dec 20

Apparently he was so upset when he found out Santa wasn’t real, that he never wanted his precious baby girl to go through the same thing.
Nonetheless, I continued to reference Santa, have my picture taken with him, and joyfully await my stocking.
When I grew older and had some pocket money, I fixed stockings for my parents so they wouldn’t feel left out. I remember mama always got the smallest box of the Whitman’s sampler chocolates and I had to be extra sneaky in order to purchase their Santa presents.
People think it’s dreadful that I knew about Santa from an early age, but I didn’t mind. I didn’t tell my friends.

CrispyQ

(38,713 posts)
6. Cheers for your dad!!
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 01:12 PM
Dec 20

I never had kids but I knew I'd never do the Santa thing if I did.

CrispyQ

(38,713 posts)
5. I don't have kids, but I would never have perpetuated this mean myth.
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 01:09 PM
Dec 20

I was in first grade, too. A kid at daycare told me & my cousin, & we both cried. And just like that, there went the Easter bunny & the tooth fairy & a few years later, God. So some good did come from it.

CanonRay

(14,966 posts)
7. I don't actually ever remember believing in Santa
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 01:25 PM
Dec 20

We really didn't have a chimney, so there's that. I was one of those pain in the ass logical kids. I knew how long it took to fly around the world.

debm55

(39,675 posts)
12. My chimney was bricked in. I didn't think about that.Sometimes kids need a little make beiieve. though it hurts when you
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 02:22 PM
Dec 20

find out the truth.

ShepKat

(438 posts)
9. I always told my kids...
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 02:18 PM
Dec 20

St. Nick was a real person who handed out gifts a long time ago and his spirit is known as Santa. When Santa's spirit sparkles your heart, the spirit of giving and caring fills the air. They bought it lol

debm55

(39,675 posts)
13. That is a very heartwarming I bought the whole Santa bit, and it hurt when I found out.
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 02:26 PM
Dec 20

debm55

(39,675 posts)
16. Yes EYESORE 9001, Which leads me to the question, Should kids ever be told about Santa. I am in the middle of deciding
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 02:38 PM
Dec 20

of not telling the Santa myth. or letting it go on. It does really hurt. I tended at certain age to tell my son it was Spirit of giving.and not a real person..

ProfessorGAC

(70,957 posts)
17. Around The Same Age, Deb
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 02:52 PM
Dec 20

I was at the shoe store with my mom. A guy came in and talked to the 2nd clerk.
He said "These cowboy boots are from Santa, but I bought the wrong size."
It wasn't Christmas yet.
Hmmmm!
A dad BOUGHT the present, which was going to be from Santa?
Before we left the store I said "Santa's not real, is he mom?"
I remember it so well, I can still picture that dad's face.

ProfessorGAC

(70,957 posts)
24. Not That I Recall
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 04:29 PM
Dec 20

I might have been bummed, but I was probably also proud that I figured out.
Just guessing about that.

Mad_Dem_X

(9,829 posts)
19. All I remember is my dad asking me
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 03:17 PM
Dec 20

one Christmas Eve: "You know there's no Santa Claus, right?" I answered, "I figured there wasn't." I didn't get upset or anything, I just realized one day that "Santa" was really my parents. Dad just asked me not to tell my younger sister, so I kept up with the charade, until my sister was old enough to figure out the truth.

mwmisses4289

(237 posts)
22. About the same time
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 03:57 PM
Dec 20

I first heard the story "Yes, Virginia, There is a Santa Claus". I was about 7, and already beginning to realize Santa wasn't real.
Loved the story, though, still do.

Solly Mack

(93,312 posts)
33. Once, my older sister and brother, along with my mother rigged a box to fall once we were up the stairs.
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 04:50 PM
Dec 20

Used one of my old tricks of tying a string to something and then tying the other end to a door. Open the door and the object would fall. I got into a lot of trouble while perfecting that stunt.

Anyway, once up the stairs, the string was pulled, and the noise made. The youngest of us, myself and my other sister, heard the noise and the others acted as if they didn't know who made that noise, but it must be Santa.

We ran back down the stairs to a once empty tree being full of presents. It was a cool trick.

My first reaction was, "How did you do that?". Because I was still perfecting my string stunt. I needed to know. They refused to admit to it.

I was maybe 3 or 4.

Even so, I always knew my mother bought the gifts because I was the one who went shopping with her for gifts for my siblings. I was and am killer at keeping a secret. Even under threat from much older siblings.

Same for birthdays. Always knew what they were getting.

She actually did tell us to go to bed early or Santa won't come.

I believed in the magic of it all because to me it was magical.





no_hypocrisy

(49,440 posts)
30. I hid in the back hall closet with the door slightly ajar.
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 04:37 PM
Dec 20

And saw my parents bring up the presents.

I still feel pangs of disappointment. There was and never will be anyone as wonderful as Santa Claus. You could do no wrong. (Don't believe the myth about Santa bringing coal.) Santa was better than parents. Santa was better than God.

debm55

(39,675 posts)
31. I knew some pretty nasty kids when I was little and they got presents. So the coal myth I never believed in.
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 04:42 PM
Dec 20

Blappy

(145 posts)
35. I think my Dad told me
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 05:13 PM
Dec 20

but I misunderstood what he said, so for a time I thought Jesus killed Santa Claus.

Blappy

(145 posts)
39. I recount this humorously, so no apology needed. I was kinda sad and horrified in some way
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 05:22 PM
Dec 20

but I think when I heard Santa was a ruse for the celebration of Jesus' birthday, I had to 'blame' someone. In retrospect, I do not think Jesus would approve of the ruse, but Santa would say, "Ho Ho Ho, lighten up, dude!"

LoisB

(9,051 posts)
40. I don't think I ever believed there is a physical Santa Claus. If I did, it was a time before my
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 05:35 PM
Dec 20

memory.

debm55

(39,675 posts)
43. Thank you LoisB. I know I was 5 because we were talking about a metal dollhouse and she told me I got it and showed me
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 05:44 PM
Dec 20

place it was hidden. ^*&%&%$$$ cousin,

Native

(6,686 posts)
44. I was 9. My parents told me. I didn't believe them
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 05:49 PM
Dec 20

And when it finally got through to me, I was bereft cuz I assumed he had died. Bottom line I was hysterical, and the conversation concluded with my mother saying, "We had to tell you because we figured if we didn't you would believe in Santa for the rest of your life."

debm55

(39,675 posts)
45. Oh sweet Native I am sorry for you, But you could have believed in the Spirit of Santa. I do, and the gift of giving to
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 05:53 PM
Dec 20

those less fortunate then ourselves.

rsdsharp

(10,352 posts)
46. When I was in first grade, some kid I never saw before or since crossed the street just to tell me about Santa
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 05:54 PM
Dec 20

the day after Christmas break.

That said, there’s a small sign on the wall eight feet from where I sit that reads “This House Believes.” You can take that any way you choose.

debm55

(39,675 posts)
47. Thank you very much rsdsharp. I believe in the spirit of Santa and the blessings of Santa to help, give and welcome the
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 06:16 PM
Dec 20

strangers.

LeftInTX

(31,170 posts)
52. My mom finally confessed when I asked her for the umpteenth time at age 7.
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 07:10 PM
Dec 20

There was just too much evidence...(All the different Santas, no chimney, store bought items, presents hidden under their bed ) I think the lying just got too old....

So, then I ask, "I guess you are the Easter Bunny and Tooth Fairy too?"

Picaro

(1,860 posts)
53. Was either 6 or 7
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 07:14 PM
Dec 20

It was a price tag from People’s Drugs left on my Lincoln Logs. Always been a born skeptic, but this price tag caused the shaky Santa narrative to fall apart.

I then checked with my middle sister and she woefully confirmed my logic. I then decided to maintain the illusion of belief for that year so as to not disrupt the ambiance.

My youngest believed until she was 11. We elected to allow her to believe as long as she liked.

elleng

(137,221 posts)
54. I don't remember, but I STILL have a note, written by Dad, responding to my written note: 'Who r you?'
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 07:35 PM
Dec 20

He answered "I am your best friend."

He always was, and still is. (My mother died when I was young. Dad died a few years ago, at the age of 98.)

Clouds Passing

(3,085 posts)
56. I was about 8, found the whole big stash of presents for 7 people. Then I knew.
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 09:43 PM
Dec 20

I wasn’t upset or sad, just hmm well that is that about that.

gopiscrap

(24,255 posts)
58. I was 7 living in Germany and the neighbor girl who was 11
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 11:55 PM
Dec 20

told me both about Santa and Sex in the same conversation.needless to say it was a traumatic afternoon for me

Dulcinea

(7,635 posts)
59. When I was little, my mother told me Santa was the spirit of Christmas.
Sat Dec 21, 2024, 12:10 AM
Dec 21

I was fine with that. I told my kids the same thing.

soldierant

(8,075 posts)
60. As one of the roughly 40% of children who
Sat Dec 21, 2024, 10:06 PM
Dec 21

are terrified of Santa Claus ... I don't remember what age, but I was incredibly relieved.

I think it was my mom that told me. I remember one year they told me Santa was coming and I hid under the bed in panic - which gave my mother and grandmother time and space to do the gift wrapping they didn't want me to see - but it was a highly traumatic experience for me.

wnylib

(25,015 posts)
67. My parents had a story for why Santa arrived
Sun Dec 22, 2024, 12:40 AM
Dec 22

at our house on the afternoon of Christmas Eve. The world was so big that he started out early and our house was on his early list.

Our church always had a Christmas pageant on Christmas Eve at 7:00 pm, put on by all the kids in the Sunday School, followed by a party and gift exchange. So we had to take a nap in the afternoon to be rested up for the evening. When we got up from our naps, the floor under the tree was covered in wrapped presents.

We were allowed to open just one gift before leaving for the pageant. It was always a piece of jewelry or clothing that we could wear that night. We opened the rest of the presents when we got home and were allowed to stay up as long as we could hold up.

I was 8 when I learned the truth. My older brother showed me where the presents were hidden in my parents' bedroom.


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