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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsThey Want Us Afraid - The dangerous act of not looking away -- JoJoFromJerz
https://jojofromjerz.substack.com/p/they-want-us-afraid-c99The street looks ordinary, the kind you drive without thinking about it, with snow-darkened curbs and a thin film of winter grit and brake lights sewing the evening together, until doors suddenly swing wide and masked men spill out in black jackets, radios clicking like nervous insects, heavy soles striking pavement with the practiced sound of authority, and a woman is still sitting behind the wheel telling them she's on her way to the doctor, telling them she's disabled, her voice already worn by a body that's spent too much of its life fighting itself, when the car shudders, a pane of glass collapses inward, shards scattering across the dashboard, and hands plunge into her hair as her head snaps back and she's torn from the driver's seat into the cold as if the vehicle itself has betrayed her.
Somewhere else, under the washed-out glow of parking-lot lights, a teenage boy in a red vest is crushed against asphalt while he says he's a citizen, that he has a passport, that he's only seventeen and just at work, and in Minnesota a mother has already been shot and buried, leaving behind children and a city still hollowed by grief, schools quiet but not numb, neighborhoods awake and watching, people standing along their front steps and texting one another not to go out, not because they're indifferent but because the air itself feels unsafe.
Fear moves the way weather does, sliding across state lines, slipping through open windows and into living rooms where children bend over homework while their parents pretend not to hear sirens, and it moves because nothing's stopped it yet, because the men doing this keep being told, again and again, that no one's going to make them stop.
A windshield caves in, a teenager's forced down, a woman's hauled into open air by her hair, and uniforms and masks and weapons begin to feel fused together, no longer signaling protection but something closer to menace, the arrival of a force that doesn't pause to explain itself and doesn't need to, because it moves with the confidence of impunity, backed by the weight of the state.
. . .
Enough to make anyone imagine it: their son in that vest, their mother in that driverââ¬â¢s seat, their own block filled with radios and armored feet and the brittle sound of windows giving way, until there's nowhere left to hide from the question burning in the air, asking whether this is what was wanted, whether this is what was chosen, whether this is the country anyone meant to make, and pressing on all of us, as witnesses and neighbors and human beings, to look, to see it, to see them, to see all of it, and to refuse, with everything we have left, to look away again.
Somewhere else, under the washed-out glow of parking-lot lights, a teenage boy in a red vest is crushed against asphalt while he says he's a citizen, that he has a passport, that he's only seventeen and just at work, and in Minnesota a mother has already been shot and buried, leaving behind children and a city still hollowed by grief, schools quiet but not numb, neighborhoods awake and watching, people standing along their front steps and texting one another not to go out, not because they're indifferent but because the air itself feels unsafe.
Fear moves the way weather does, sliding across state lines, slipping through open windows and into living rooms where children bend over homework while their parents pretend not to hear sirens, and it moves because nothing's stopped it yet, because the men doing this keep being told, again and again, that no one's going to make them stop.
A windshield caves in, a teenager's forced down, a woman's hauled into open air by her hair, and uniforms and masks and weapons begin to feel fused together, no longer signaling protection but something closer to menace, the arrival of a force that doesn't pause to explain itself and doesn't need to, because it moves with the confidence of impunity, backed by the weight of the state.
. . .
Enough to make anyone imagine it: their son in that vest, their mother in that driverââ¬â¢s seat, their own block filled with radios and armored feet and the brittle sound of windows giving way, until there's nowhere left to hide from the question burning in the air, asking whether this is what was wanted, whether this is what was chosen, whether this is the country anyone meant to make, and pressing on all of us, as witnesses and neighbors and human beings, to look, to see it, to see them, to see all of it, and to refuse, with everything we have left, to look away again.
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They Want Us Afraid - The dangerous act of not looking away -- JoJoFromJerz (Original Post)
erronis
Yesterday
OP
I'd rather die standing than live kneeling to these sorts. Resist! Get in the way. Make good trouble.
dutch777
Yesterday
#4
I hadn't run across this author until a few days ago. Her writing is powerful.
Ms. Toad
Yesterday
#7
She is such a good writer and very empathetic - even with her vernacular style.
erronis
Yesterday
#10
wiggs
(8,699 posts)1. Always right on. And...our tax money is paying for this. nt
no_hypocrisy
(54,361 posts)2. I may be cautious, but I'm not afraid.
I lived a life with my father. I'm battle-tested.
murielm99
(32,713 posts)3. My mother here.
Sure, they can hurt me again, but I know what to expect.
dutch777
(4,904 posts)4. I'd rather die standing than live kneeling to these sorts. Resist! Get in the way. Make good trouble.
mgardener
(2,303 posts)5. I saw this quote from Thomas Merton this am.
"Violence is not completely fatal until it ceases to disturb us. "
surfered
(11,730 posts)6. Cell phone cameras will play a big role in resistance
Ms. Toad
(38,343 posts)7. I hadn't run across this author until a few days ago. Her writing is powerful.
Another of her pieces:
https://jojofromjerz.substack.com/p/fucking-bitch
Renee Good didnt die screaming. She didnt curse. She didnt spit back the rage being hurled at her by a man who had already decided he owned the moment, the space, the ending. Her last recorded words were gentle in a way that keeps echoing long after youve heard them, a soft human attempt to steady a situation that had already begun to tilt toward something dangerous. Im not mad at you. Not sarcastic. Not defiant. Just a woman trying to lower the temperature in a moment where heat was building fast and fear was beginning to bloom.
And that matters. It matters because those words werent weakness. They were instinct. Women have been speaking that language for centuries, smoothing sharp edges with softness, translating danger into diplomacy because we know, in our bones, how quickly male anger can tip into something that cant be walked back. We learn to offer calm the way you offer a glass of water to a shaking hand, hoping it will be enough to keep everything from spilling.
Ive watched my friend do that in her own home. Ive seen her standing in a kitchen with a bruise blooming on her cheek, whispering please dont be mad, Im not mad at you, lets just calm down, as if her gentleness might absorb his violence. Sometimes it worked. Sometimes it didnt. But she kept trying, because women in danger are taught that survival depends on how well we manage the men who want to hurt us.
Renee was doing the same thing. And in my reading of that moment, through everything I know about abusive men and the way they move through the world, that quiet Im not mad at you may have felt like a challenge to someone who needed to be in charge. Because some men dont hear peace as peace. They hear it as a woman claiming ground that isnt supposed to belong to her. They hear it as a refusal to be properly afraid.
. . .
What comes next is the part that still makes my stomach drop. Not because of its volume or its violence, but because of how ordinary it sounds. Fucking bitch. A phrase flung like a verdict, sharp enough to turn her into the problem even as she was bleeding. Theres no wobble in it, no stunned silence, no hollow what-have-I-done. Just blame, immediate and reflexive, a story being told fast enough to make him the victim and her the provocation.
Ive heard that tone before. My friend heard it after every punch, every kick, every hand around her throat. The same old sentence wrapped in different words: look what you made me do. You pushed me. You deserved it. This is your fault. Its the logic of abuse, a kind of moral alchemy that turns cruelty into consequence and makes a woman responsible for her own pain.
And that matters. It matters because those words werent weakness. They were instinct. Women have been speaking that language for centuries, smoothing sharp edges with softness, translating danger into diplomacy because we know, in our bones, how quickly male anger can tip into something that cant be walked back. We learn to offer calm the way you offer a glass of water to a shaking hand, hoping it will be enough to keep everything from spilling.
Ive watched my friend do that in her own home. Ive seen her standing in a kitchen with a bruise blooming on her cheek, whispering please dont be mad, Im not mad at you, lets just calm down, as if her gentleness might absorb his violence. Sometimes it worked. Sometimes it didnt. But she kept trying, because women in danger are taught that survival depends on how well we manage the men who want to hurt us.
Renee was doing the same thing. And in my reading of that moment, through everything I know about abusive men and the way they move through the world, that quiet Im not mad at you may have felt like a challenge to someone who needed to be in charge. Because some men dont hear peace as peace. They hear it as a woman claiming ground that isnt supposed to belong to her. They hear it as a refusal to be properly afraid.
. . .
What comes next is the part that still makes my stomach drop. Not because of its volume or its violence, but because of how ordinary it sounds. Fucking bitch. A phrase flung like a verdict, sharp enough to turn her into the problem even as she was bleeding. Theres no wobble in it, no stunned silence, no hollow what-have-I-done. Just blame, immediate and reflexive, a story being told fast enough to make him the victim and her the provocation.
Ive heard that tone before. My friend heard it after every punch, every kick, every hand around her throat. The same old sentence wrapped in different words: look what you made me do. You pushed me. You deserved it. This is your fault. Its the logic of abuse, a kind of moral alchemy that turns cruelty into consequence and makes a woman responsible for her own pain.
erronis
(22,747 posts)8. Yup - I posted that on DU
https://www.democraticunderground.com/100220930357
As always, when it bears repeating, please repeat!
As always, when it bears repeating, please repeat!
I thought I ran across it elsewhere. So many things going on, so many sources. I miss track. Thank you!
erronis
(22,747 posts)10. She is such a good writer and very empathetic - even with her vernacular style.
radical noodle
(10,487 posts)11. Fear controls
That's their primary mission.
peggysue2
(12,407 posts)12. Spot on!
Love the Merton quote down thread as well:
Violence is not completely fatal until it ceases to disturb us.
Bravo on both.