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mountain grammy

(28,695 posts)
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 02:33 PM 5 hrs ago

He shot her in the face

And then growled “you fucking bitch “as the car moved away. Maybe the last words she heard.

How many women have heard the words “you fucking bitch” screamed in their face right before a fist, or worse, slams into them?

I’ll go first. Me 😢 if you can answer you survived. The latest victim of state sponsored violence did not.

men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them.. The Handmaids Tale

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He shot her in the face (Original Post) mountain grammy 5 hrs ago OP
Has anyone else had their anxiety triple with the murder of Renee Good? vapor2 5 hrs ago #1
How about a hug? Trailrider1951 4 hrs ago #3
Yes. mountain grammy 4 hrs ago #8
My anxiety soared when the Orange Hellbeast attacked a sovereign nation and abducted their head of state. ShazzieB 3 hrs ago #27
I needed this Joinfortmill 2 hrs ago #31
I have heard it for many different reasons, was raised with it. MuseRider 4 hrs ago #2
Yep mountain grammy 4 hrs ago #10
That man is a domestic abuser sboatcar 4 hrs ago #4
Sure not the actions of an innocent man. mountain grammy 4 hrs ago #5
Me, right before I hit the wall with abdominal staples dehisced Maru Kitteh 4 hrs ago #6
You're still here mountain grammy 4 hrs ago #7
You too MG. You too. Maru Kitteh 4 hrs ago #9
How awful, Maru Kitteh. My heart breaks for you. MIButterfly 4 hrs ago #19
Thank you for your kind MuseRider 46 min ago #39
The real question is xmas74 4 hrs ago #11
Well.. stillspkg 4 hrs ago #15
This is why my ex-husband is my ex..... Bayard 2 hrs ago #33
I'm so sorry mountain grammy. Scrivener7 4 hrs ago #12
Thank you mountain grammy 4 hrs ago #16
That doesn't go away. No matter how long ago. Scrivener7 4 hrs ago #17
It's a common phrase spoken by weak men... LuckyCharms 4 hrs ago #13
I hope i say this right Srkdqltr 4 hrs ago #14
You just did MuseRider 43 min ago #40
Say it with me: BurnDoubt 4 hrs ago #18
Me, moved on, survived, and surpassed. I saw it again in tRump when he first ran for office, txwhitedove 3 hrs ago #20
Hugs to all of us who have had to listen to this verbal hateful abuse. Clouds Passing 3 hrs ago #21
the only time I heard YOU FUCKING BITCH Skittles 3 hrs ago #22
👍 mountain grammy 2 hrs ago #28
Yes, a very long time ago. Joinfortmill 3 hrs ago #23
Dead!? We'll be lucky if they don't apotheosize him! nt Wednesdays 2 hrs ago #32
Post today from JoJoFromJerz erronis 3 hrs ago #24
That's a good read. Highly recommend it underpants 2 hrs ago #29
Great piece mountain grammy 1 hr ago #37
I am very lucky. I have been called that a number of times, as well as niyad 3 hrs ago #25
Every time I've been called that... Pacifist Patriot 3 hrs ago #26
This may be the reason why this incident resonates with so many Wednesdays 2 hrs ago #30
If that asshole murderer doesn't beat his wife, there ain't a cow in Texas. raccoon 2 hrs ago #34
This is the first time I've heard this aspect of the murder Bayard 2 hrs ago #35
I was putting gas in my car and a truck Zackzzzz 2 hrs ago #36
Thank you for this mountain Grammy. democrank 1 hr ago #38

vapor2

(3,795 posts)
1. Has anyone else had their anxiety triple with the murder of Renee Good?
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 02:39 PM
5 hrs ago

Mine has after seeing her face and believing the fbi will cover this up. Along with his constant threats of taking Greenland (fuck Stephen Miller ). I really could use Xanax right now.

ShazzieB

(22,227 posts)
27. My anxiety soared when the Orange Hellbeast attacked a sovereign nation and abducted their head of state.
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 04:44 PM
3 hrs ago

Then the murder in Minneapolis made it soar even higher until my mental health suddenly did a barrel roll and then nosedived toward the ground. Fortunately I was able to regain control of the craft before it crashed and burned.

Living in America these day is exhausting. This is how I feel right now:

MuseRider

(35,136 posts)
2. I have heard it for many different reasons, was raised with it.
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 02:57 PM
4 hrs ago

All above. Catching a bit of it now so I think I will stop here. There are days when I just can't shut up. KWIM?

sboatcar

(727 posts)
4. That man is a domestic abuser
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 03:02 PM
4 hrs ago

He checks all the boxes. I worry for his wife.


So rumor has it, immediately after the shooting, he went home (not to the hospital), and started packing, and within an hour or so, a line of SUVs showed up and he threw a bunch of boxes into them, then got in his own truck and was escorted away, and no one has seen him or his wife ever since. They're probably in a luxury bungalo at Mar a Lago right now.

Maru Kitteh

(31,273 posts)
6. Me, right before I hit the wall with abdominal staples dehisced
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 03:12 PM
4 hrs ago

and broken ribs. Three days after giving birth.



Too many of us have been through it. We know what we see when we see it.



MuseRider

(35,136 posts)
39. Thank you for your kind
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 07:03 PM
46 min ago

response to my post.

I missed some I am certain but I love and appreciate you all.

It feels like a blanket here.

stillspkg

(155 posts)
15. Well..
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 03:44 PM
4 hrs ago

I am angry with those who have, even as I have never been called that. It is shocking when I hear of it and I don't ever want it to become normal. I stand with my sisters and brothers. Women deserve better and men should be held accountable for violent language,

Bayard

(28,646 posts)
33. This is why my ex-husband is my ex.....
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 05:25 PM
2 hrs ago

I've heard it from other sources too, though. Usually men who feel threatened by a strong woman.

LuckyCharms

(21,869 posts)
13. It's a common phrase spoken by weak men...
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 03:41 PM
4 hrs ago

when they realize that a woman is stronger than he is.

I'm so sorry for what you went through. I know that doesn't help anything, but I'm truly sorry.

Srkdqltr

(9,387 posts)
14. I hope i say this right
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 03:43 PM
4 hrs ago

I have never in my 84 years been subjected to that sort of treatment.
My heart breaks for those of you who have.
I would love to hug you all and take away all that hurt.

txwhitedove

(4,334 posts)
20. Me, moved on, survived, and surpassed. I saw it again in tRump when he first ran for office,
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 03:57 PM
3 hrs ago

and told everyone not to vote for him.

Skittles

(169,647 posts)
22. the only time I heard YOU FUCKING BITCH
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 04:21 PM
3 hrs ago

was when I smashed the toes of a pervert with my combat boot

yes indeed

niyad

(129,663 posts)
25. I am very lucky. I have been called that a number of times, as well as
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 04:41 PM
3 hrs ago

the c-word (which, as I have posted previously, I proudly claim, knowing the origin) but physical violence never followed. For some reason, those trying to frighten and insult me have tended to be intimidated. The times someone did try, "you fucking bitch" was not part of it.

However, from many years of DV work, I know all too well that far too many other women have not been so fotunate.

Pacifist Patriot

(25,190 posts)
26. Every time I've been called that...
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 04:41 PM
3 hrs ago

I either feared for my physical safety or my career was sabotaged.

Men have no idea how dangerous it is to simply allow a man to experience his insecurities.

Wednesdays

(21,617 posts)
30. This may be the reason why this incident resonates with so many
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 04:58 PM
2 hrs ago

You're having an ordinary day, then *BAM* ... you're dead within milliseconds.

Something everybody fears in the back of their minds. But females, especially.

Zackzzzz

(267 posts)
36. I was putting gas in my car and a truck
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 05:38 PM
2 hrs ago

drove up on the other side. I looking at the gas meter
and the guy who was on the other side said to me,
"You're the reason the world is the way it is".
I looked behind me. Was he talking to me?
I turned back and said, "Who me"?
There has been worse, much worse.
But why the blanket hatred from men?

He was speaking from a comfortable space.
I stayed...until he drove off, first.

democrank

(12,169 posts)
38. Thank you for this mountain Grammy.
Sun Jan 11, 2026, 06:20 PM
1 hr ago

This deadly incident….murder….caused by that brutal ICE agent and all the turmoil and chaos that followed felt like it blew me wide open. It brought back old feelings of terror and dread, of desperation . Those feelings and tears are just below the surface, as real as ever, .even after decades.

I’m sending a hug to anyone here that needs one.

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