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imanamerican63

(14,682 posts)
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 06:29 PM Jan 4

Update, my brother in law.

The family has decided to take him off the ventilator. About an hour ago they shutdown the ventilator.

My sister did find after they were going through paperwork, my brother in law was a organ donor. So, they will take his liver and lungs and put them in the system to be transplanted.

Thank you again for all the well wishes and support.

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Update, my brother in law. (Original Post) imanamerican63 Jan 4 OP
I'm sorry for your loss. milestogo Jan 4 #1
I'm sorry. A hard decision. redwitch Jan 4 #2
I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Jan 4 #3
Sincere condolences to you and your family. skylucy Jan 4 #4
A true act of giving, donating his organs. mercuryblues Jan 4 #5
From me too.. raising2moredems Jan 5 #38
Hopefully his life will give new life to those with other illness & Disease. N/T Jacson6 Jan 4 #6
I am so sorry KT2000 Jan 4 #7
So sorry Figarosmom Jan 4 #8
Sorry to hear about your Brother-in-law. Condolences to you and your family marked50 Jan 4 #9
... Drum Jan 4 #10
My deepest condolences to you and your family. AllyCat Jan 4 #11
So sorry for your family's loss MacKasey Jan 4 #12
I'm so sorry for your loss. May the memories of livetohike Jan 4 #13
I'm so sorry for your loss. brer cat Jan 4 #14
My condolences. Liberal In Texas Jan 4 #15
Thank you to your brother in law and his family Danmel Jan 4 #16
Oh crap!. So, so sorry. 70sEraVet Jan 4 #17
condolances. "" AllaN01Bear Jan 4 #18
What a great kindness to share organs. irisblue Jan 4 #19
I am very sorry for your loss Meowmee Jan 4 #20
My deepest Condolences on your loss. ProudMNDemocrat Jan 4 #21
So sorry. bluestarone Jan 4 #22
Making a decision like this is an act of love for your brother-in-law. TNNurse Jan 4 #23
I am so sorry about this. sdfernando Jan 4 #24
Sorry for your loss. Americanme Jan 4 #25
I'm so very sorry for your loss. femmedem Jan 4 #26
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Jan 4 #27
My sincerest sympathy to you and your family, imanamerican. Diamond_Dog Jan 4 #28
My deepest sympathy. sinkingfeeling Jan 4 #29
So very sad people Jan 4 #30
I am so sorry for your sister. Peace be with you and your family. Fla Dem Jan 4 #31
So sorry to hear of your losses. Hang in there Evolve Dammit Jan 4 #32
I'm so sorry. highplainsdem Jan 4 #33
I know how hard it is Skittles Jan 4 #34
I'm sorry for your loss. KS Toronado Jan 4 #35
I'm so sorry for your loss Wicked Blue Jan 4 #36
Very sorry for your loss. Linda ladeewolf Jan 4 #37
He's a true hero for being an organ donor Arazi Jan 5 #39
I'm so sorry, imanamerican. summer_in_TX Jan 5 #40
What a courageous decision. hamsterjill Jan 5 #41
Condolences to you and your family gademocrat7 Jan 5 #42
I am so sorry. Trueblue Texan Jan 5 #43
I'm very sorry. I had a cousin who lived seven years, until her children were teens, after a transplant. NNadir Jan 5 #44
Oh man, I feel so bad for your sister. lark Jan 5 #45
K&R spanone Jan 5 #46
I'm sorry for your family Bettie Jan 5 #47
I'm so sorry for your loss and also for your sister... LeftInTX Jan 5 #48
I am sorry for your loss. waterwatcher123 Jan 5 #49
Sorry for your loss Historic NY Jan 5 #50
Thank you for sharing this with DU. nt LAS14 Jan 5 #51
Very sorry for your loss DaBronx Jan 5 #52
Sorry for your loss. yagotme Jan 5 #53
..... Clouds Passing Jan 5 #54
I am so sorry Lulu KC Jan 5 #55
So sorry DownriverDem Jan 5 #56
I'm very sorry for your loss dlk Jan 5 #57

raising2moredems

(732 posts)
38. From me too..
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 12:06 AM
Jan 5

Being an organ donor is a sign of being a good person. While you get no say to organ recipient, it is bit consoling. I followed the wishes of a relative and "pulled the plug". No major organs could be donated but skin/connective tissue and one other part which eludes my brain at this time could be. The person on the phone apologized a few times re: the questions asked (some were of a really personal nature of the deceased). But I could truthfully answer, I did, and I hope at least one person benefited.

livetohike

(23,315 posts)
13. I'm so sorry for your loss. May the memories of
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 07:24 PM
Jan 4

good times with your brother in law always make you smile .

Danmel

(5,360 posts)
16. Thank you to your brother in law and his family
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 07:30 PM
Jan 4

In 1990, I lost one of my dearest friends to pulmonary hypertension. She was only 30 and died waiting for a heart and lung transplant.
Organ donors are heroes who transform lives and give hope. It does nothing to take away the pain of your family's loss but will hopefully help others from suffering that pain.
I'm truly sorry for your loss.

70sEraVet

(4,388 posts)
17. Oh crap!. So, so sorry.
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 07:40 PM
Jan 4

I kept hoping there was a good ending to that story, and he was going to walk out of there.
His organs may well help someone else. For some reason, I've never considered doing that. Time to fix that, I guess.

ProudMNDemocrat

(19,486 posts)
21. My deepest Condolences on your loss.
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 07:47 PM
Jan 4

Knowing your BIL will be living on in other people is a beautiful way to remember him by.

Hugs to you and your families.

sdfernando

(5,595 posts)
24. I am so sorry about this.
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 08:12 PM
Jan 4

Condolences to you, your sister, and the entire family. At least someone will be able to live a better life because the generosity of your BIL being an organ donor.

people

(760 posts)
30. So very sad
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 08:45 PM
Jan 4

Seems like you and your sister and other family members are caring and close, which is so important. . ..

Wicked Blue

(7,698 posts)
36. I'm so sorry for your loss
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 10:05 PM
Jan 4

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

summer_in_TX

(3,496 posts)
40. I'm so sorry, imanamerican.
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 01:56 AM
Jan 5

What a grief.

But what a fine person your brother-in-law must be to have thought of how he could help someone. I'm glad you have the comfort of knowing that about him. There's something eternal in giving that gift.

NNadir

(35,291 posts)
44. I'm very sorry. I had a cousin who lived seven years, until her children were teens, after a transplant.
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 09:12 AM
Jan 5

Your brother-in-law in death is giving a gift of life. He must have been a wonderful man. Deepest condolences to your entire family especially your sister

lark

(24,655 posts)
45. Oh man, I feel so bad for your sister.
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 09:16 AM
Jan 5

Having to make the decision to pull a loved one off a vent is a horrible one to face. I'd never want to go through that experience again - it was totally gut wrenching.

Clouds Passing

(4,001 posts)
54. .....
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 12:20 PM
Jan 5


My heart goes out to your brother in law, you and your family. I know the pain, I’ve been there.

dlk

(12,587 posts)
57. I'm very sorry for your loss
Sun Jan 5, 2025, 05:02 PM
Jan 5

Sending warm thoughts for comfort and peace for you, and your family.

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